Why are you very depressed over a narcissist ex who left you for another girl and want him back even though he insults and abuses you?

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NO MEANS NOWell I must start off my saying that I was abused, and I NEED to answer this question for you. First I am going to say that the reason you want him still is because he is all you know. You want him to want you again. You liked it when he used to beg and cry to you, because that showed he wanted you. And although he was abusive to you, you still liked the attention. Believe it or not, in abuse victims, bad attention is still just considered attention to them. Any attention is good attention. But I need to tell you, LET HIM GO! He may have left you for another girl, but you are better than her. Dont think of him leaving you as a bad thing, think of it as " now i dont have to get abused anymore". I was abused very badly, he beat me while I was pregnant with my son, he beat me EVERYDAY, he was a horrible person, and I will say for the longest time I never wanted him to leave me, and then when it really was OVER i was glad. And then he was the one begging me to come back. And I stood up, and said NO! I am a woman and i dont desreve this. And my wonderful fiancee now, brought him all of his belongings, and that was all. So my point is that you have to let go, you dont deserve and abuse. and HE doesnt desreve you! If you ever want to chat email me at cbnep4eva@Yahoo.com

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ITS AALYAH (PERSON THAT ASKED THE QUESTION), U KNOW WHAT U R TOTALLY RIGHT, I GOT A CALL FROM HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND TODAY SWEARING AT ME CALLING ME ALL SORTS OF DISGUSTING NAMES AND HE WAS IN THE BACKGROUND LAUGHING AND CALLIN ME ABUSE AS WELL. I NOW KNOW IT WAS NEVER LOVE AS HE IS THIS ABUSIVE SINCE HE FOUND THIS OTHER GIRL, WHO HE MET WHILE HE WAS WITH ME, I HAVE WOKEN UP NOW. BUT I AM SERIOULSY DEPRESSED, HE LEFT FOR HER, CHEATED AND ABUSED ME AND NOW HE HAS NO HEART FOR ME WHATSOEVER, I NEVER IMAGINED THIS IS WHAT HE WAS REALLY LIKE. I HAVE WOKEN UP, BUT HOW DO I GET OVER IT NOW? NO OTEHR GUY COMPARES TO HIM, I NO THAT SOUNDS SICK, BUT THEY DONT. I FEEL WORTHLESS, TORN, AND CANT GET THROUGH THIS. HOW DO I FORGET HIM AND STOP CRYING EVERYDAY

I feel your pain girl! I really do! You have to remember that it is what they do. A snake bites and it hurts, but would we be more careful...of course we would. So why do we take these slime bags back? It's emotions...they are involved, and they created an illusion for us, and that's what makes us hold on to. I know this because my narcissist was not bad all the time, so the illusion of him being nice is what I held on to, cause then you think that's the way he's going to be with other woman. Well, he will be for a while, but then in time she will do something that is not to his liking and he will begin to devalue her as well. ITS AN ILLUSION HE CREATED SO IN THE END YOU THINK YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR HIM! It's bull crap! He's a abuser, and that's what abusers do, they abuse. Like a snake bites, cat's meow and dogs bark.

Please read up on narcissistic personality disorder, and you'll learn alot. Stay strong girl...i still cry every day but you have to pick up and move forward...And separate yourself physically...no contact is a must....for the clouds to clear.. Remain emotionally neutral for a while. Take care of your beautiful self.

P.S. I thought i mean't every thing my ex N, but in the end to him I was worn out, washed up and not of use for him anymore.. exactly how he said it, and exactly how he planned it too. You cannot relate to someone who is not normal. We are kind loving human beings, they are vampires..waiting to suck the life out of someone whom will allow them to do it. Lesson learned...I'd say!