When do ex narcissists respects you or fear you knowing you know some dirt about them would they re contact you being now NC?

Answer 1

Narcissists so overestimate themselves they wouldn't really believe your bit of dirt on them would matter much having survived with so much more dirt there ought to be on them. That covers 99% of things you are likely to come up with, so save yourself the embarrassment and stay no contact.

If by any chance you've hit the 1% of something a narcissist believes that bit of dirt could have actually serious ramifications and thinks it will stick and you'd do this- ask yourself these crucial questions before you for warn your threat:

Is it something law enforcement is already working on a definite arrest and you are a clearly protected witness?

Are you a high scoring psychopath according to Hare's inventory ?

If your answer is No to the second question, without Yes to the second one, ask this final question.

How crazy are you and how much would you like to see your house burnt down , pets or your relatives or yourself maimed and more forms of suffering?

A Narcissist would only be restrained in repaying with extreme vengence if either these things applied:

Being a high scoring psychopath as they are recognised by Narcissists as even better at fighting back. Or alternatively strong law enforcement surrounding him and you'd still need very strong law abiding persons ready to witness , security cameras, strong new locks with the Narcissist aware that you have all that in place.

Narcissists are best dumped, with no contact kept and proper use of the law and witnesses if they try to come back. They can be so ruthless and short sighted that if you enrage them in enough they really don't care or believe the usual constraints matter.