What to do when your cheating husband won't move out?

Answer 1

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If you talked to your husband already and he ignores you that's when you need to see someone that can help you, like your family or maybe lawyer. If your husband is abusing you, that's when you can talk to the police and report what he is doing.

Answer 2

First of all he can't tell you how to feel. If it's something recently that he's been doing. Another thing this is if you choose to forgive and he has stop cheating then you need to let it go and try to work things out you don't bring something up a million times if your over it and obviously your not over it. So the first thing you need to decide is if you love your husband and want to work things out if so then you need to make up in your heart and mind that what is done is done and leave it just like that he can't take it back and you can't make it go away so stop trying too by complaining about it every day your only making it worse. Next thing the both of you need to do is sit down and have a talk and you need tell him that there are some things that you want to get off your chest and that after you say these things to him all is forgiven and we are going to move on from this point and then you let him have an opportunity to tell you what's on his mind and then you close that chapter and think of the next day as a new day in your marriage. Well before the next day you both need to pray together and then you need to pray alone so you can ask God to get your heart and mind right so you can continue in the marriage. Then the next day comes and it's going to be hard at first but pray daily about the situation and after a while you won't think about it anymore. Now I understand your husbands point of view if you haven't forgiven him and don't want to get out now!!! Because the longer you stay there trying to punish him the more you punish yourself because in reality you look like a fool trying to hurt him as much as he has hurt you. And if he hasn't stopped doing it or doesn't plan on it that means he doesn't love you anyway and the best revenge in the world on a man that doesn't treat you right is to leave hin and find a man that will. He will be so upset when he sees you smiling and laughing with another man because that's when he'll realized how great and wonderful you are and how good you were to him and how much of a fool he had been for letting get away. On top of all that you have to know you if you love you can't no man in the world drag you through the mud and make you feel bad if you know who you are. We women let men treat us like crap sometimes just because we love them so much, but the question you have to ask yourself is your husband worth working it out with what has he done over the past few years to make you stay? Was the cheating a mistake? or Does it happen every year with an apology attached? Does he do everything he says and mean what he says? Does it bother him that he hurt you? Ask yourself these questions if the answer is no to more than three of these questions then you need to do some soul searching and find out is this place you really want to be. I hoped this helped you I'm not married but I was in a long term relationship with a man for over four years and he cheated on me and I know you love him deep inside but it's time for you to decide who do you love more yourself or your husband and if it's self then you got to do what's best for you to be happy the pain will go away and you'll see him around and then you'll get to thinking to yourself I'm glad I chose me because he didn't. I'm not telling you to give up on your marriage I am an advocate for working things out but if your unhappy get out!! Refresh the memory of this arrogant piece of work right now! Remind him that unless you have signed a pre-nup agreement half of everything he owns is yours right down to his retirement and some investments he may have. Don't sit and be sad, get mad! I was married before when younger and I was stupid. I loved him with all my heart, but he was a born cheater. It took a long time for me to realize I couldn't change him, but I finally got my head out from under the rock and saw clearly he was plain no good. The one mistake I made (we had no children and no home, but investments) was I was too soft-hearted to go for the gold. He wasn't rich, but we'd both worked hard and in British Columbia, Canada, the divorce is one session and then it's a lot of red tape to get back into court to get half your assets. I didn't bother because he had already caused me enough grief and I just wanted to get rid of him. Even when I left and got my own apartment I was lonely for him???? It wasn't that at all. The good memories (at the beginning of our relationship) came flooding back, I was hurt and confused and started to blame myself. I could have been a better wife, prettier, did more of what he wanted and on and on my pea brain went. The truth of the matter was I could have been perfect and this guy would have continued to cheat. I finally got mad, dusted myself off, got a new job, met new friends and started to get into the dating circuit again. I was introduced to my second husband by a male friend of mine and we've been happily married for 34 years. There is hope hon, so kick this waste of skin to the curb, fight for your rights and get on with your life! Good luck