What should you do if every time your husband and you get into an argument he says he doesn't want to be with you and one person has got to leave?

Answer 1

I am not married but I had gone thru similar situation before, that was my ex-fiance, I think if a man can't handle an argument graciously with either his wife/gf, he needs to learn how to agree to disagree, there is no power struggle in a relationship, is about mutual respect and appreciate the difference. I think if he can't handle the argument and quickly jump into a conclusion either one must leave, he is very immature. My advice to you is, does he really mean it when he said so, if SO, okay, call the time out, leave him for awhile, he needs to calm down. If he is not serious, then calm down yourself first, then grab him to have a long serious talk, tell him his statement hurt not only you but also the relationship. There is no such thing as his way or highway. I ended up left my ex-fiance, because he can't handle the argument and wanted to call off the wedding, just small fights, I know that's it, we won't be able to make to beyond the wedding.

AnswerWhen me and my live in boyfriend used to argue I would get so mad at him to were I would tell him to leave and move out. But then he would say that that was very childish of me to say that I was in muture if I wasn't going to talk out our problems. So I kinda know what youre going through. The reason why I would say that is because most of the time people includeing me would say things out of anger and to hurt others, also to see if he would leave. It was like a test. would he leave, what would he say next,or what will he do? you see what I'm trying to say? Also there could be more to it maybe he feels guilty about something and he cant tell you but he feels that if you leave he wont ever have to. same thing to me when i would tell Jason to leave the thing that came to my mind was cheating on him in the beginning. so i would never have to tell him. but I did and everything is fine to where when ever we fight I don't say leave anymore cause my contous (I hope I spelled that right)is clean. So now since you see where I am coming from seeing that i would do the same thing I say if you love him so much ask him next time he says to you that one of us has got to leave " whos got to leave me or you? and why does one of us has to leave lets talk out our problems honestly no matter how it hurts come clean" " how do you feel this way and why do you feel this way?" or you can write letters to each other both of yous go in separate rooms read them then come out and talk about it. I heard that one before and it worked with some people.

I hope I gave you good advice and that one of the suggetions work thank you for listening and god bless Debbie