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I don't know if this qualifies as revenge, but after I was completely duped and used, I was angry for months and months. Of course, I had tried to think of anything to get back 'at hear' for how she treated me. However, since I'm not 'like her' and my mind doesn't work that way, I surrendered. But, I'm gifted musician and lyricist, so I wrote a song, recorded all the instruments myself, mass copied it, left out names and spread it all over the city. And she thought I was her inferior! :-) No doubt I got the last word. It was the sweetest revenge I could get for myself - and it is funny, funny, funny. Humilating for her. :-)

AnswerNarcissists thrive on the controlling the emotions of the person that they are with. They can be very cruel and do things to hurt your feelings intentionally. When you don't show any pain or anger and show indifference towards things they do or say to you, they get very bewildered and get mad because you are not mad! I went through this and more in my narcissistic relationships. I felt like it was revenge on them when I didn't give them the reaction they wanted to see. My ultimate revenge is ending the relationship!! I just ended a relationship with a narcissist. He was a user, very unhappy and played on my emotions all the time! I did everything I could to make him happy; emotionally, financially, physically and he was never satisfied and caused me so much pain. Now that it is over, he is begging for a second chance, promising that he will change. HE WONT. AnswerDon't show any emotions when he attacks you emotional and verbally. He will become enraged when you do not react the way he wants you to. When I finally realized I was just a mere pawn in his narcissist world I quietly disappeared from his world. Its called No Contact. It was the best thing I ever did. I later found out on the grapevine that he went on a rampage to find me, even three years later. AnswerYes there is, when he dumps you and tells you something to make you feel bad, which he will, don't cry, plead or act like it bothers you. Dont act like you are overly happy either, just say okay i understand and now i can get on with my life. At first, they wont belive you, but once you don't call them AT ALL and act like its not a big deal..........they will wonder what the hell happened to such an easy source of control.....once that control is gone they will expereince distressing emotions......that's the best revenge!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck......i just got dumped by one three days ago. AnswerThe best revenge is living well. Be happy, be peaceful, be successful, be gorgeous!!! and do it for yourself not to show off to him. No matter how hard you have to work to get there. Make it look effortless. Remember - you can't out psycho a psycho and you can't hurt someone who has defenses that would make the Marines proud. Hasn't he/she wasted enough of your time already? AnswerInteresting you should say Marines. I had an N at work obsessed with the institution. Just kept bragging on how honorable, strong and masuline he was since he is a Marine. He claimed he was enilsted in the USMC for twenty years. I already knew he had left the corps after only two years to join the airforce which he resigned from as well. He didnt have what it takes. Marines are real men, have real confidence and protect those weaker than them. A Narcisssitic Marine is an oxymoron. N's defenses are hard but very thin. Underneath is a coward that would bring shame to the United States Marines. Its all a smoke screen designed to make you believe they are something they never will be.

Yes the best revenge is living well for yourself just like the previous posts advise. Ignore him no matter what he say or does. Just speak to him only occasionally with thinly veiled politeness. Do not show them any emotion or feeling. because they have none of their own, they like to play with yours. Do not let him fool you into believeing he can "read your thoughts". They really can't. But by intimidating you into believing it's so its only then you give your self away.

One more thing - if you still have to associate with him on a day to day routine (work, school, etc.) You can make vauge references to a particular lie that you are on to him about. Say some little thing everyday. He will still deny it. But it weakens him and he will become scared of you because he is afraid you can see him for the sick liar he really is.

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Well I got revenge (although not so proud of it). My hubby of 10 years has had multiple affairs. He used to tell me all the time how he WORKED SOOOOO HARD to provide for me and the children. He could not possibly be up to no good. So of course I said "sure dear your right im just being paranoid". Then I hired someone to find out for me. Not only was he having sex off the highway to and and from his job, he was also having sex in the PARKING LOT OF HIS JOB. So one day he came home and was telling yet again that I was crazy for doubting him blah blah blah... as he was talking I just started playing the tape. When he heard himself moaning and groaning on tape the expression on his face was priceless. Shocked and confused he played the "I wanna commit suicide card" and tried to force me to stab him with a knife. So I filed a restraining order against him and got temporary custody of my kids until he gets help for his problems.... lol In the meantime I played all my video and audio tapes for my family and his family.... ahhhhh good times had by all!!!!!!! lol But on a serious note. I was devastated. I hurt everyday but refuse to let him know. He has fallen back to being a recluse out of embarrassment he will soon be over that.... can't let reality stop his narcissistic ways.... lol

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AnswerNarcissists are all about control. Show them that they no longer have control over you. Don't call them. Don't email them. Cease all contact. Don't answer their calls or emails. Avoid them if you see them in person and show no reaction. The lack of reaction to them will be absolutely maddening.

Best of all, get on with your life, make yourself look good, join a class, make new friends and date non-narcissist partners. Your ex will practially wither away seeing you so independent and getting on with your life.

Success is the best revenge.

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AnswerThis is a good answer except in the case if you have decided to stay with him......my revenge is quiet and yet I do love him and he is in the mutation phase now as he is older......he treats me better the better I look and the more I handle myself socially as a lady....he tremendously admires my strength and knows he is wrong and his cards for birthday are cards that actually now say things in them (he did not write the words in the card, words were already printed on the cards themselves) that says thanks for staying with him when he has failed so miserably , etc....this is a BIG step for this man...he has LEARNED in his age of almost 60 that it is nice to be peaceful. He does not really know the anger I have carried and dealt with and does not care most of the time, so I don't bring it up anymore....I have more peace when I can manipulate him in ways that are small.....house looks nice when he comes home, fire going, something for him to grill outside on weekends, serve him a vodka, have conversation (only really what he wants to talk about, etc.)....it works as I have decided to stay after 16 years of it.....I see what is out there and I don't see much and as long as my heart is still FOR him, I will continue to do so...I can be by myself AND be with him also....
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move on with your life thaat's the best revenge Forget all about him and be happy, you have reason to be if you've survived a relationship with a narcissist. If you happen to see him look right past him as if he doesn't exist. Chat on your cell phone, laugh, act like you are having the time of your life even if you are not. Whatever you do, don't show him that you are angry or hurt because that's how he wants you to feel. He will most likely start calling you wanting you back. Don't fall for his lies. He just needs a dose of his narcissistic supply, which is you. Use this to your advantage. Be cold and heartless, shut him down. If you need something from him take advantage now, get it, then dump him just like he would you. Don't give him anything, don't fall into his trap, remain heartless and detached. When you get what you want, get out quick and don't look back.

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Live well and do not look back! Put your energies into something positive and believe in yourself. It will take time to heal, but move on. Do not give him any energy (that's negative) put your energy into yourself and your future. That is something to be very happy about.

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The best and safest way to "get even" with a narcissist is to go NO CONTACT with them. Ignoring them is a severe injury to them, it is the simplest way you can actually cause them pain. It is also the safest, since it will keep you from getting sucked back into their poisonous circle. Don't try to go after a narcissist and create havoc in his/her life or the life of their families, they may become violent towards you, and you will inevitably still be supplying them with attention, since Narcissists love ALL attention, whether good or bad.

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By not caring about them and improving your own life. Don't try it. Just leave. You're asking for trouble if you think you need to get even with him.

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Succeed! By moving on in your life, by never looking back and being happy with your life. If you play the revenge game against a narcissist- you will NOT win.

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Call him, visit him, give him a present, speak to him with soft words, then sleep with him

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