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I am in exactly the same position. My father's abusive, controlling, and aggressive behavior has alienated him from all family. He has no friends, and he never has had any friends. He loves to push people into arguments. But that's not all he pushes. He is physically and verbally abusive. I've been the only one who has stuck with him through the years -- fifty to be exact. He's now 80 years old, and his behavior simply is worsening. I will tell you what I've finally come to admit -- he's not going to change, remove him from your life, and begin living for yourself. I'm in that process now, and it is very hard. But don't spend as much time ruining your life as I have ... end it now and begin living for yourself, your wife, and your children. I can honestly say that my abusive father ruined my childhood, and I have allowed him to ruin my adulthood as well. I just kept thinking that, as he aged, he would mellow out and become that good father to the good daughter that I have been. Unfortunately, I see that will never happen. So, I'm ending my relationship with my father ... I am saying no to his hittiing, pushing, shoving, punching, name-calling, stomping, insults, sarcasm, and throwing things. It will be over soon, and I will be spending the rest of my life healing and wishing I had acted sooner. Don't wait any longer ... take a stand now, get him out of your life, start healing, and begin your life with freedom.

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