If im 13 and think im pregnant and scared to tell your mom what do i do?

Answer 1

So you really want to be a parent at 13-14? You can look forward to feeding the child, changing it's diapers, having to spend nights up with a child who screams all the time or is colicky. You'll be too tired to dress up, put on makeup or go to the mall. And wherever you go, your child will have to come with you in a stroller. Want to go to a friend's house for 5 minutes? First, you have to get the child ready, placed in a stroller or the child's car seat, before you can head out the door. At first, your friends will pay you attention because you have a new baby, that will wear off as you have less time to spend with them and soon you'll be spending most of your free time at your home. The father of the baby most likely will either totally ditch any responsibility before the child's birth or he'll be a "father" for a couple of months, get bored of the responsibility and not hang around anymore. As far as school, your grades will slip because of the extra responsibility placed on you to take care of your child. If you want to go to college, more than likely you'll have to live at home and not in a dorm. You'll have to find daycare for your child if you plan on going to school or getting a job. As far as going to parties or dances, forget that for the most part, you'll be busy taking care of your child. As far as dating--guys your age don't usually want to deal with the hassle of someone else's kid, so you're not going to be asked out as much as other girls are. This is what you'll have to look forward to--you may love the idea of being pregnant and having a baby, but doing it now is going to take away a large chunk of the life you may want in the future. You talk with someone you trust to discuss why at 13 you think your are "wanting" a baby. You are way too young for this responsibility and need to rethink this idea. Do you have the thousands of dollars it takes to just have a baby. The doctors visits you must do are 50.00 each time and that's if you don't need extra care or medical attention. Then the birth is 6-8,000 dollars and then after that the baby is about 300-400 dollars a month to take care of. This is not a game nor is this the way a child should be brought into this world. I hope you don't think the state is going to pay for this because they don't. Then you will piss your mum off and she will probably curse you every day. And what about the guy that gets you pregnant? Your mother can sue him for rape and so can the police, arrest him for having sex with a minor. You need to talk to either a guidance counselor at school, a doctor and or your mum. Why not babysit some kids to get the real taste of how it is to have kids around. They are beautiful and adorable but not 24 hours a day. They need food and baths and clothes and doctors care and attention that at 13 years old you neither have or can give properly. Any one can give birth but it takes a mature person to be a parent. You may think you are mature and you probably are for your age of 13 but you are no way mature enough to handle this. Please listen to me, you cannot and should not have a baby at this age. You will burden your self too early in life and you will not have a good life. You will miss out on lots of good memories that you should make for yourself that are age appropriate and you need a good job. For that you have to graduate from high school and go to college or get a good paying job so you don't have to live off the state or any man. This is a very big deal, not a joke and not a game. What if the child you have is born with a medical condition cancer, which can happen or a heart problem or a deformity. Are you ready for that can you handle that financial and emotional responsibility. I don't think so I am 39 and know it would be hard for me, so you couldn't handle it at 13. THINK, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think, think PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Read those two responses above (or maybe below) mine. They are wise and accurate. I think you are already pregnant. But if you are not, then do the young man a favor and tell him of your plan. Be fair to him. If he thinks its OK then the both of you need professional counseling with your parents. Be fair to the young man, but even more importantly, be fair to your first baby. At age 13-14, you would be sentencing you new baby to a lifetime of hardship. Is your life so boring that you need a baby to brighten it up? You're looking in the wrong direction. If you think a slap from your mum is the worst think that can happen, you shouldn't be asking the question in the first place. I am not doing it because it is crime and greatest sin against God. If I was your mother I'd have hit you by now! LOL Seriously, trust in your mother (or father) and remember that sex is not a dirty thing at all. Most parents are well aware that teens are thinking about sex at a young age now. Talk things out with your parents. They aren't you're enemies and they love you. They were young once too. Just tell them you've been thinking about sex a lot and peer pressure is great out there. If you can't talk to your parents (feel too embarrassed or they are divorced or don't get along with them) then talk to a sibling you can trust or a good friend. The posters on this board gave you some very good advice. NEVER let peer pressure or anyone talk you into giving up your virginity until you are ready. Did you know that there are actually some clubs formed by teens your age up to 19 that are trying to obtain from sex (not having sex.) Sex is a beautiful thing, but if you try too hard when you are young to be cool and keep up with your peers you'll miss out on some beautiful moments. Your sexual life should be private and it's no one's business. Smart people take it slow and easy when it comes to sex and those that might make fun of you are usually the ones that have been there, done that and wish they hadn't. Good luck! i think it would be great for u to be pregnant i am thirteen and pregnant it i love it. u get pregnant by telling ur parents that ur going to ur boyfriends house to study but instead of studying u have sex if u go to school together u can just have sex in one of the baathrooms-when u gt pregnant u dont tell ur parents till ur stomache gets big or when it starts to get big just run away then u wont have to tell ur parents anything hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 2

I think you should be prepared to face the conseqeunces of your decision making. Tell your mom and tell her you realize the mistake you made. It was something made for only married couples. Not teenagers. Again, this was your decision, so you should be straightforward with her. Explain what you did and why you regret it.