What affects will a narcissist dad have on his daughter?

Answer 1

Well, I have just left my narcisstic partner after 17 years of abuse. Your right, he was so charming and thoughtful and agreeable until I moved in with him. It took a while before the devaluing and discard and there were good times along the way because I was giving him all the supply he needed. I didn't start researching this problem until about 3 years ago and it has been hard because I didn't know what this disorder was or anything about it. I did lots of reading on co-dependency and anything else that I thought would help with my research. Two years ago I got it and everything started to fall into place and then he found my books. He didn't say anything but I knew that he had been reading the pages I had marked. I figure that he knew the gig was up! Then the devaluing started, bit by bit. I discovered that he had a new girlfriend for about 6 months and she was kept a secret. I finally told him that I could no longer live like this and he was shocked and dumfounded and stood in a strange position and stared at me. I did move to my own place and am starting to heal somewhat. Well, because I had left him (abandoned him) and I no longer speak to him (I ignore him) he felt he must punish me. He found my weak spot which was my son, his wife and my two grandsons. He has told them many lies about me (I have no clue what he has said) and I was told to leave (when I was visiting my grandsons) and to stay away. He is not a blood relative - I am - but he goes to their home and visits and I am not allowed to be there. My daughter does bring the grandsons to visit me every 2 weeks (she is there Aunt). Thank goodness for that and I have no clue how to fix this. I have sent my son a letter and still no response. It has been 8 months since we have been a family and my ex partner is not flinching a bit because as we know they show nothing. They are like robots with nothing inside. My ex is off with the new gf and are still in the honeymoon stage - I would assume. I can hardly wait until the end comes and he can hurt like I have - oops! I forgot they show no remorse, empathy and they have no conscience so I am sure that it will be

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Answer 2

If you were raised by a narcissistic parent, then you've been taught that the narcissist is always right and you're the one who's wrong. A lifetime of such mistreatment typically instills lack of confidence in your own judgment, along with habitual shame at never getting it right or being good enough to deserve the air that you breathe. The children of narcissists may not have realized that the quirks and oddities of their impossible-to-please parents are not in any way unique or special but are in fact the symptoms of a personality disorder. Compliments of: http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/

Answer 3

Things like lack of self-confidence, excessive guilt, imbalances in their concept of their self-worth, fear, and mostly something that adult children of narcissists call "fleas". (Some Googling will get you stuff about "fleas", and so might searching for the word "ACON", which stands for "Adult Child of a Narcissist".)

ACONs struggle a lot, and it's been said they tend to be either overachievers or underachievers.

Answer 4

My father in law is, by all accounts, a narcissist. I did not recognize it at first, but looking back it is all to clear now. My wife is cute and I love her. She is also week, not that handy and not the smartest woman. She does capitalize on her good looks and being sweet. I can't tell you how many men have crossed the line on getting to close to her. It is clear to me now that she is also a female version of a narcissist who uses her sexuality to get her supply from men. Between her father and her flirting with men, we have a poor marriage.

Answer 5

Children are naturally narcissists. But, they are kept in check by parents and they eventually develop a sense of empathy, honesty and a sense of responsibility.

Adult versions don't have that .....a sense of empathy, honesty or a sense of responsibility. It is why they are what they are.