What are the chances of someone who has only been in love with abusive and narcissistic men ever falling in love with an emotionally healthy person?

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Therapy can help as can updating your sense of attraction for men. The old saying is, "If you do not change what you are doing, then you cannot expect anything different to happen." Look at the articles on recognizing abusive men before you date and become involved with them--and try to avoid them. Own up to a mistake right away and do not go out with them again. They are enticing charmers, as you know. But, there are wonderful men out there who will be good to you and you want to create a life that you can share with that good man. Follow your interests, your heart, and take your time

Your chances of having a healthy relationship with a matuere, reciprocating partner are very high - except if you are a codependent.

Even then, a spell of therapy usually solves the problem effectively. See the external links further Dow this page.

I am very optimistic for you...a bit of therapy and also, you are learning what not to look for through past experiences. Take some time and use your instinct. good luck!

I had that problem. Get some theraphy and a man willing to be patient and work with you. I know you can do this because I did it!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

I agree with the others; once you have had therapy and worked on yourself, the rest will follow. Without therapy, it's unlikely you can progress sufficiently. However, the good news is that it can be done, and the love relationship you have with the healthy person will blow you away (i speak from happy experience).

I am living proof that you can fall in love with an emotionally healthy and HAPPY person after being in negative relationships. I had to seek therapy because I could not understand why I kept falling into the "bad relationship trap" and I needed some guidance. Once I received it, it made me stronger and I was able to break free from a relationship with a narcissist. Now I am getting married to a wonderful man and I haven't looked back.

i would have to say i was in the same situation i had dated a guy who was in a previous relationship with a ''abuseive narcissistic'' girlfriend , whom had physically mentally an emotionally abused him.. whom he had dumped several times but kept falling back into her devilish arms... when he asked me out an dated me he claimed that he was the happiest guy alive an that i am verry emotionally an mentally sound..an i would have to admidt i am not as mentally unstable as she is , when he dated me.... Me an him had a great relationship, until one day he had decided to visit her for lunch .. an after that me an his relationship went to the rocks an he went back out with her i couldn't understand why ? but he seemed attracted to her abuse an they way she treated him?? so from my exsperience i would say ... the chances are probubly slim... people wont admidt it but they seem to be more attracted to there screwed up an unhealthy realationships there in because in there mind they think that they can fix it an work it out witch technically they cant ! but everybody is different i hope this person can see what a good person you are to her an hopefully will choose you over the abusive exI

My girlfriend was abused by a narcissistic brother and father her for a long time and I love her with all my heart! 8)