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It's obvious your wife is searching for something she isn't finding in her marriage so ask her that question. Whatever it is, she's had enough chances and it's time you laid down the law. No, she IS NOT trying or she wouldn't be in contact with this other man. She fooled you into believing she was listening to the marriage counselor and going to give it a try. Tell her she has to make a choice between this guy she is seeing or you! Make her face her children with the announcement that you are at least getting a separation. She knows what she is doing is wrong. Don't take it out on the guy she's seeing, because she's an adult woman that can form the words "no" on her lips.

I know you are trying to cope with your marriage and partly for the sake of the children, but if your wife continues on with her behavior then see a lawyer and be sure you can prove that she is cheating on you and get at least the separation under these circumstances. I suggest a separation rather than a divorce because the shock of you walking away from her may straighten her out and she may realize that the grass on the other side of the fence isn't always greener. If she continues on with this guy then go for the divorce. There is no sense ruining your life along with hers and staying together for the sake of the children isn't always best for the children if the two of you aren't getting along. Children are very tuned in to the fact something is wrong between mom and dad.

Good luck!

AnswerThat depends on you. Will you ever be able to trust her again. If you feel you want to work it out, that takes two. If you don't want to work it out then don't stoop to a lower level than she did by cheating. Divorce her and find someone that

will treat you with the respect you deserve. Had she not been happy with your marriage she should have been mature enough to come to you before the "act" and be honest with you. Now the ball is in your court. I would be fair and give her what she would need to start over, with in reason. She didnt choose to make the right decision so she shouldn't get the lions share of the goodies you've built together. I would say split any household items in half. Like one gets the washer one gets the dyer. Split all the dishes and linens. If you have two cars give her one. If there are payments on either, split them. Divorce does not have to be ugly and trust me when I tell you, you will make a smoother transition if you are fair and honest with yourself. You can rise above this sad situation. By the way if there are children involved then you both remain the best parents you can be to the kids, don't put them in the middle of any arguements and realize the only thing that is going to change between the two of you are the living arrangements. Every other aspect with the kids remains the same. Be fair about that two and if you make arrangements to split the kids time between homes then be sure to not give her too much money to "help" raise the kids, its even in that respect. Good luck and keep your head up , this too shall pass....

I think you should leave her! If you let her get away with it she will do it again and again. There is no excuse for cheating period! If she is unhappy in your relationship she should have come to you and tried to fix it. Going out and sleeping with another man is not the answer. In my opinion she is lucky you did'NT drop kick her and the man she slept with. What kind of person does something like that after 18 years of marriage. I would say you cant trust her anymore, its time to take out the trash! I am sure you deserve better.

AnswerYes, you should consider it because if you two cannot work through this than how can you trust her anymore. Are the two of you willing to go for counseling. Divorce is a ugly way to end a relationship but sometimes it has to be done. If you two can move on with the relationship then more power to you if not don't be ugly with one another just move on with your lives.
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