Should you call the person you suspect is cheating with your spouse?

Answer 1

No, talk to your own spouse follow the "chain of command" Think about it, are you wanting to mend fences or ruin trust irrevocably? What good would come of it?

Yes you should, it will, if nothing else - put an end to it. You maybe surprised at what information his wife may have. I had to do that with my situation - call the girl's husband. Come to find out, this guy had already hired a detective and had way more info than I what I had. Anyway, it ended at that point. Once it hits his home, he will no longer want to deal with your wife.

Thats a definite yes. That way you can gang up on them or maybe catch them in the act. Then they can't lie their way out. OR, even better, if she is hot maybe you could arrange for the two of them to walk in on the two of you...

No--you should think about how to deal with your marriage? Do you want to stay married to your wife or get a divorce? This man can screw up his marriage by himself--don't get involved in someone else's private business.

Be angered at the man you wife is having an affair with, but don't drag his wife or children through the mud. His wife may turn on you and blame you as the bearer of bad news, or she may already know about her husband's affair and not care.

YOU SHOULD NOT definately. You ask why? Well if ur marriage is being ruined by some other man and YOUR WIFE(dont forget this), you should not try to revenge and destroy his wife marriage coz you will be worst then him! If you are that mad then face him in person and do something if you belive its worthy. But its never worthy belive me (coz you can do something that you will regret afterwards)! If you wanna keep the marriage try to talk to your wife, and if it doesnt work just finish it. But dont forget, if u try to ruin his wife marriage you will be worst then him and you will face much more consequences. Keep your dignity up! Dont let them pull you down!

No, dont tell her. Just seduce her and get revenge ... hehe.

yes you should tell her! how do you feel right now knowing she cheated on you and what happends whe he goes and gets aids with some other girl you might be saving his wife life, would you tell of bridge being out or would you watch the car fall of the bridge ??

What many people do not understand is any of the people involved might have the legal grounds to file a civil actions against any of the other parties. Unless the evidence is indisputable as to the infidelity, numerous legal difficulties can arise.

Yes! Exposure kills most infidelities especially if the families and friends of the cheating participants are well informed. The cheaters will not get any support for their adulterous behavior. Affairs need secrecy and ignorance to thrive so exposure and knowledge of its existence will destroy it.

The answer is up to you and what you want. Do you want revenge, do you want to pump up the drama or do you want to find a way to resolve the issues with the marriage. If you want revenge and more drama, yes then calling the man will start that fire. Any satisfaction from confronting him will be short lived and resolve nothing. Otherwise, you will be better off dealing with the real culprit, you wife. The marriage needs help and she is half of that. How you two work it out is up to you two, not three.

Answer 2

No. What you should do is either hire a detective to get hardcore evidence or be the detective yourself. Get pictures and proof. You will need it in case you divorce your cheating husband. Calling the other woman will only stir things up, she can deny it and you won't have any proof. Your husband will be tipped off that you suspect him and he will be more careful which will make it harder for you to catch him and get evidence. Think like a woman who is going to clean up in a divorce, would that woman spoil her chances of getting everything she wants in a divorce? Hi there - Are you positive about the other_____? Then I would agree with who had advised you to hire someone - IF your able to afford that service...and on the other hand....ARE you sure you want it to be confirmed from a stranger? Or be ahead of the game and you leave the house early one morning or even better tell him your going away with the girlfriends for a weekend and then stay at a motel close to your home and rent a car and follow him around for the weekend. JUst be sure you know what you want and how you will deal with what you find out...cause if your not ready for the truth...then you better sit down and think about you first - how its really going to affect you....I really FEEL for you at what your mind and heart must be going through!!

Answer 3

It really is your call but weigh the pros and cons - are you doing this for selfish revenge, to try and break them up or just because you really think its going to make a difference. When it comes down to it, it really is best to pay attention to what is going on with yourself and at your home and really most times it doesn't do anything anyway. I don't know if it is your husband that cheated with this other husbands wife but if so look closer to home for your answers etc. because in the end it was his choice to stray and the problems lie at your front door. If this is the guy cheating with the husbands wife then chances are she is going to stay with her husband and had no intentions at anytime of leaving - you were just fun for her and it is best to leave things and move forward - chalk it up to experience and learn from it.