Should a reunited birth mother stay in a relationship with her verbally abusive birth daughter?

Answer 1

No one should stay in a relationship with an abuser - regardless lof the nature of the legal and biological bond. If you really want a relationship with her, then stay, but make it clear to her that you won't take her talking to you that way. You can't really treat her like you would a daughter you raised, but you can ask to be respected or you won't be in her life any longer. If she, after repeated attempts to get her to control herself with you, still makes no attmept to do so, then you need to stop seeing her. If I were in the situation, I'd still send her letters occasionally and cards at birthdays and holidays, etc. Someday she may realize what she has done and want to contact you again. You need to always keep your end open to her, you are her mother. This is not the type of question that can be answered with a simple statement. Questions regarding human behavior require a lot of clinical data before making a rational assessment of the particular situation. Human emotions and related behavior cannot be summarized in a few paragraphs of literature. There is no recipe for Love/hate or any other emotional situation, where a singular perspective can be recommended as the ultimate solution. Each situation requires essential background data on all the persons involved in influencing the psychological and physiological development of the child in question. If your daughter feels that you had abandoned her as a baby, then it will be very difficult for her to have any trust or confidence in you. Children are usually very skillful in finding your weakness and then emotionally manipulating you at their whim and fancy. Being a good parent takes a lot of hard work and dedication. You must be stern but not rigid, you must be gentle but not a softie, you must be loving but not insecure, you must be decisive but not autocratic in other words you must be balanced in your responsibility as an exemplar to your children.