There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question as it depends on the dynamics and comfort level of each individual couple. Some couples may prefer a close relationship with their counselor, feeling that it enhances trust and understanding, while others may prefer a more formal and impartial approach. Ultimately, the most important factor is finding a counselor who is skilled, professional, and able to create a safe and supportive environment for the couple.
Pastors are in a unique situation as counselors due to the inherent dual relationship with their clients, who are often their parishioners / members of their church. Although it is beneficial to participate in counseling with someone who knows both parties well, it is a good idea to be careful of the potential harm of a dual relationship. You may want to participate in counseling with your pastor and, when / if you feel the therapeutic relationship or perspectives of any party are becoming too muddy because of the personal relationship, you can ask your pastor for trusted people he might recommend to continue your counseling.
Trust is earned and your husband broke that bond of trust so he is going to have to earn it back. Both of you should seek marriage counseling to get to the root of why your husband thought he should cheat and the counselor can give tools for the couple to work with and strengthen their marriage. A marriage counselor is not there to blame either party, but to get you both to see the weak spots in your marriage and work on them. No, you will probably not trust your husband for cheating for awhile because trust is earned.
For it to be considered marriage counseling, both parties need to attend. You can always get individual counseling, if your husband does not want to go.
Get a lawyer or go to family counseling.
To get the most out of marriage counseling, communicate openly and honestly with your partner and the therapist. Be willing to explore difficult topics and emotions, and commit to making changes based on the therapist's recommendations. Practice active listening and empathy with your partner, and be open to learning new communication and conflict resolution skills.
From the Catholic perspective, spouses generally receive some pre-marital counseling by a priest and should have been advised to be respectful of one another's beliefs. Most Catholic priests would advise marriage counseling (either with the priest or another counselor).
If he is willing to work things out he should be happy to go to marriage counseling. Find a licensed marriage counselor, it will be a good place to start. Good luck.
Definitely, before anything gets out of hand or goes anything further. The person having trust issues should be counseled individually as well. Else they could possibly mistrust the marriage counselor too. I should know, my husband mentally links me with wvery man in town. My husband and I have been married for 7 months and recently started seeing a marriage counselor because of trust issues. Trust was never a problem until we were married and living together. Now that we are together all the time, we expect to know every little detail about each other's lives when we're not together. And when I felt that my husband was being sneaky or keeping something from me, I made some pretty horrible accusations which made him feel as though I didn't trust him. I was having trouble trusting him and he felt that he couldn't trust me enough to tell me what was going on for fear that I would jump to conclusions. It's going to take a lot of work to build a solid foundation of trust in our marriage, but seeing a marriage counselor is helping us to strengthen our marriage. It definitely helps to have an intermediate person who can put things in perspective and make you see that there isn't a good guy/bad guy in marriage. It's about working together as a team to resolve issues and build a strong marriage. Counseling is needed for sure!
Both of you are abusive to each other. You need counseling. Family counseling and anger management counseling.
If you husband has never cheated on you before and this was his first time then realize that people are human and can make some terrible mistakes that they regret. If your husband shows remorse for his actions then it would be wise to see a marriage counselor to give you both the tools to take control of your marriage and restore the love you once had. Seeing a marriage counselor does not mean either party will be blamed, but the counselor will give them both wonderful tools to use in their broken marriage to make it whole once again.
I would suggest that you go for a marriage counseling before you get married. It really helps when you apply what you learn... Well if you ever needed to have a counseling for your marriage at any point maybe your boyfriend or husband isn't the one for you! No offence because this is coming from a young age I told my mother the same thing!
You should try marriage counseling. It helped me a lot.
You can ask him to suggest outing ideas. If that fails, I'd suggest marriage counseling.