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Is there hope for your marriage if you left your narcissist husband 3 months ago and he has admitted to many mistakes but not big issues like cheating and you think he was sexually abused by his dad?
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∙ 16y ago
Sound like he has already used his excuse to you that he was abused by his dad and it's time your husband quit using this excuse. Many people have been abused by a parent(s) and of course it is a terrible thing and one that psychiatric counselling is needed. However, he knows this and has chosen not to do one thing about it. Men are more apt not to seek counselling than women. Some men feel they can take care of it themselves and don't want to appear weak. Many men also feel by seeing a psychiatrist people will think they are crazy. You owe this man nothing. He is aware of the environment in which he came and it sounds as if you were as supportive towards him as you possibly could be, but when he doesn't seek out the help or take your opinions and only becomes worse or never changes then it's time for you to move on. Because he has not admitted to cheating, etc., he is still not helping himself and I hope you just keep moving on. No, I don't think you can go back to him. When he can seek out counselling and prove to you he is serious and you can see some honest changes in your husband then it's possible you could get back together. Can you wait that long? Narcissism is extremely difficult to change - especially when you want someone else to change who is narcissistic. So is dishonesty such as not telling the truth about cheating. If someone is sexually abused by their father, you can understand why they may act the way they do... but this is absolutely not an excuse because every adult has the ability to change their life. He is no longer the child who had no control over his life. He is now an adult and is choosing to lie and be self-centered. THIS IS NOT A MAN WHO YOU WOULD WISH UPON YOUR DAUGHTER OR SON - so why would you wish him upon yourself? Please stick with your decision, get help in therapy to figure out why you chose a man like your ex-husband, and allow yourself to live a full life with a truly loving and honest person. You are only guaranteed one life and you never know how long it will last, so you owe it to yourself to make it the best that you can. Best of luck!
== Well, you can be glad that he has admitted some things to you. It is interesting that he has also been sexually abused, and you can be sorry about that. However, that said, it doesn't change a thing. He hasn't changed over a long period of time. He hasn't indicated that he will act differently towards you in the future. Or, that he will be able to do so. Hopefully, you can stay away and not go back. The deal is, that whatever finally broke the camel's back and caused you to leave will recur. Your future is certainly more rosy without him as your partner.
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∙ 16y ago
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Can someone who admits their mistakes be a narcissist?
A Narcissist NEVER makes any mistakes. It is always the fault of another person is done TO him not BY HIM so that he will look to be at fault.
What do you call a person who never admits his mistakes?
A Narcissist.
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What does it mean if husband confesses to cheating?
If your husband admitted to you openly and without you trying to get the information he is cheating then he's being honest with you. He feels guilty, but what you have to find out is why does he feel like cheating and does he want to stay in a relationship with you. Any relationship an individual enters into be a friendship or love takes work; honesty, trust and loyalty, but humans can make mistakes. If your husband has never cheated before and been man enough to admit to his mistake he is worth another chance.
What happens if you keep forgiving the narcissist for all the nasty things he does to you?
He mistakes your kindness for weakness, and loses all respect for you (if he ever had any in the first place)
What should you believe after you caught your girlfriend cheating and she tells you she's still loves you wanting to be with you?
Your girlfriend had to get caught cheating by you and was not honest and admitted she had made a mistake and cheated on you. Therefore, she is playing two against the middle. She wants to keep you on the sidelines while she does as she likes. Cheating is disrespectful and a good relationship is based on honesty; loyalty and good communication skills. However, humans make mistakes and it will be up to you to decide if she is worth giving another change by talking out your problems and asking her why she felt she had to cheat on you in the first place.
Dating after divorcing a cheating husband?
Yes. of course! Its a cheating. You can't do like that. Divorce is taken when you feel uncomfortable with your partner after your marriage.!! The marriage is not a business and its a bonder of relationship with your husband and you, you and your childern. You can not take such hard decisions to cheat/make hurt your partner. Of course now a days everyone feels to get divorce even if your partner makes small mistakes. We should understand his/her feelings. We should obey his/her good and bad things. and we should love and care them for life long.
You married too soon and want out?
People are just human and make mistakes. If you can honestly look at yourself in the mirror and know you have tried to make your marriage work then the best thing is to talk to your spouse and file for divorce before cheating enters the picture. Unhappy couples may cheat and resolves nothing.
How would you know that your wife won't cheat on you again?
If your spouse has only cheated once then realize that people are only human and they can make mistakes, but can also learn from their mistakes and if they confess without being prodded to the cheating or they feel remorseful and want to save the marriage then seek marriage counseling to learn tools to strengthen the marriage. If your spouse has cheated more than once then they probably are non committal and will cheat again no matter what they promise. As humans we do not even know ourselves 100% so we cannot be expected to know another person 100% and by being together it is a risk, but time will tell.
When an infidelity takes place can couples marriage survive?
Yes, when infidelity takes place in a marriage it is possible if the person cheating realizes the terrible mistake they have made and the emotional stress they have put on the person they really trust then both should see a marriage counselor to help them learn tools to communicate on a better basis; how to resolve problems in their marriage and how to learn to respect and give each other the space they require to enrich their own lives without cheating as well as spicing up their marriage sexually and intellectually. A couple should have at least one thing in common they can do together; make plans for a short or long holiday; talk about their feelings with each other without getting into an argument or yelling at each other. No human is perfect and therefore everyone makes mistakes in their relationship. If your partner has only cheated once and this is not a habit then there is a very good chance the marriage can survive.
Why repair a marriage after a husband has cheated?
Wouldn't it be wonderful if humans were perfect, but reality shows none of us are perfect and our main goal is learning from our mistakes. If your husband has never cheated before and this is the first time and he regrets his indiscretion then it is worth another chance to resolve the problems he has in the marriage. Communication skills are a must in a marriage and it appears both of you need to hone up on these skills. Agreed, cheating is a weakness when the person cheating cannot be honest with themselves or with their partner and want their cake and eat it too ... the wife and the woman they are having an affair with. Why? That is what the two of you need to discuss and base a good marriage on. There are thousands of couples going through what you are going through and many of them communicate and seek marriage counseling and manage to save their marriage. In the 21st century it appears if a partner even goes off the road and into the ditch of life once then the spouse uses it as an excuse and is only too keen on ending a marriage (less work) and moving on. Successful marriages take a lot of work and 'marriage isn't for sissies.'
Can you trust a wife who had an affair with another man until you found out and she is now sorry for cheating on you?
The fact that you caught her in this affair and she wasn't going to tell you weakens the relationship. However, people are just human and make mistakes so it is up to both of you to sit down and discuss your marriage problems and ask her why she felt the need to cheat on you. Perhaps you are not doing your share in the marriage, but, it is wise to build up good communication skills between the two of you and you both should feel free to go to each other when you are unhappy with your relationship. Since marriage is a serious matter then yes, you should give your wife another chance, but make it plain to her that you will not put up with her cheating again.
