How can you recover from your marriage infidelity?

Answer 1

For those people that was hurt and betrayed by our spouse, we will never get over the pain of their affair but it will ease up slowly and surely. Time will be our weapon and it will help us to understand, all we need is never loose our faith.

Answer 2

One of the hardest things about getting over a hurt that was caused by the actions of someone else, is we tend to feel that the solution is outside because the cause was. That belief - which we all have, including me - keeps us dis-empowered.

We need to realise that whilst the pain we feel was certainly caused by another's actions, the feelings we have are our own, and we cannot have the power to change them until we accept the responsibility own them. (Power comes with responsibility and visa-versa).

At that point, we then need to do what ever WE need to do to let the pain go. No two of us are the same. But if that solution is destructive (eg hurting them or someone else in revenge) then know that it will cause fresh pain, so is not helpful long term.

What may help in this case is understanding what caused them to cheat. It may be it was nothing to do with you and if so that might help you let it go. But working out another person's actions, especially if there is no intimacy and trust to do it within, is very hard and the digging can keep you locked into the pain.

If you're still with them, and want to stay, then try to build a 'safe' (i.e. no blame) place for them to talk, so you get to hear, understand and know 'why'. Then you'll have the info with which to know what YOU need to do, for you.

Answer 3

Surviving infidelity is very difficult but it can be done. It depends on the people and the degree of apology and remorse and forgiveness. For many survival of infidelity does not happen because the man they married and fell in love with changes too much.

ANSWER:

The person above me is right, it will be hard to survive infidelity, especially if the spouse fell in love with the other woman. I know because the man I married fell in love with the woman he was having an affair. He wrote and admit to the pastor how he felt towards this woman. So I don't need to doubt his words, if he can admit it to the pastor, he sure admit it to God.

Answer 4

Just try not to think about it and don't go to the places you went with the affair partner,no phone calls or going to the apartment,house or place of work looking for the affair partner. If you are in another commited relationship and deeply care about this other person you must move on and try to make the relationship work. Don't keep your long term loved one just hanging on and stop decieving them,its not right. The grass is not always greener on the other side. Sometimes when having a affair we think we are in love when in real life its just lust. After that wears off and it will,you'll have the same problems you think your having in the long term relationship. Put all that extra thinking your having about the affair into the relationship you have now. Find things to do when you are pondering about the affair. Its over,throw it out like a old washer woman would a pan of dirty wash water,out the back door.

Answer 5

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People who got hurt by the infidelity of our spouse will need times, lots of time and it also depend on how bad the situation is. Being betrayed and lied to is not just a walk in the park that we all just forget it and move on.. I am one of them that was betrayed by the man I married..

Answer 6

To begin with I am sorry you are in this situation. (Assumed.) Yes, I know how everyone claims that it takes time, but it really does. Time heals all, eventually. (By the way I hate this thought-to-be-American-Spellcheck!) No matter of the intelligence, try to avoid further incidents like this which is mostly in instinct after a situation like this. Just think how the opposite person was too low for you, think about it you wouldn't cheat! Despite the disturbance of this information I would just like to say in my opinion it is not purpose if someone has passionate emotions for two people, yet he was not loyal to you, dishonest, however he must of liked you enough to avoid hurting you but not enough to avoid the affair. Sorry to say that.

Answer 7

• If a person feels guilty for having a marital affair then that's a good start. It is the people without remorse for their mates feelings that will probably cheat. Humans are not perfect and may slip and have a marital affair 'to err is human.' You should feel guilty, but now that you know what you did was wrong you have to earn your mate's trust back again and it will take time. Good communication skills are a must between meets so sit down and express your feelings of grief and ask your mate where you should begin to improve on the relationship.

Answer 8

by going to jesus and asking for forgiveness. i am exactly sure that will work just try it:)