What to do when you no longer love your Husband?

Answer 1

• If your husband was verbally or physically abusive then that is good cause not to love him and you should divorce him. If he has always been good to you then remember you took your vows when you got married and 'marriage is not for the weak!' You at least owe both of yourselves some marriage counseling before dissolving the marriage especially if there are children involved. If, after that you have simply fallen out of love with your husband then have the courtesy to sit and talk to him and then proceed with your divorce. Many women often look at their husbands later in life (they may do the same with their wives) and wonder if they still love their spouse. Married life can be full of every day problems such as financial problems; routine (getting bored with each other) both partners working or the wife left sitting at home cooking, cleaning and looking after children. There are always problems in a marriage and as long as it is not abuse then a person should give all they have to saving the marriage and only then should they walk away.

Answer 2

If you have to ask....it doesn't look good. BUT step back and look at your relationship from the outside. Is he still the same man you married? If not what changes are there in him? Can you accept these changes? Is the relationship abusive verbally, physically or emotionally? If they are minor idiosyncrasies, can you work through or talk to him about them? If hes abusing you in any way walk away, marriage should be a union of two souls with love and respect, And should never be hurtful. Whatever you do, You married him for a reason and I believe every person has the right to be happy. But I also believe marriage should be forever, with few circumstantial exceptions. Try and talk to a counselor, priest, family member or someone you can confide in to help you work through any problems you have. I hope that you find in him what you saw in him when you married him or even started dating him...

Answer 3

Define love. If it is only the feeling of closeness, intimacy, and shared affection that relates to your happiness (ie. the feeling of romance) and that no longer exists for you, then you have to decide for yourself if your marriage (the contract part of it) is still worth it for you. Chances are you don't feel that your needs are getting met and this makes you feel apathetic towards your husband. OR there could be malicious behavior on his part...and for that, I'll say sorry to you. however, on the former about your needs not being met, that is sad, but common. it is easy to feel that your relationship has hit a wall. men and women have very different primary love needs and while women need to feel communicated to and cared for and supported, men need to feel trusted, admired, approved of and appreciated. if both parties dont feel these primary needs being met, there is stalemate and no one is happy....then all your initial love giddiness has subsided and you start to think about other people.

chances are you fell in love with your husband for a reason though. maybe he was a good guy, maybe he pursued you in his own sweet way, he showed you affection and he cared for you. and you liked this. but somewhere along the way you lost each other. it got cloudy. maybe there was hurt exchanged. for your sake i am sorry especially if there was cheating. but maybe if you feel anything for this man resembling affection..... remember that love is a sacrifice and an act. and that best relationships are the ones that endured through complete and total "desert" conditions to enter into a new understanding with each other and a greater level of intimacy. ive even seen this with cheating in the marriages...it can recover. the best love has weathered tough stuff, getting to know the person in a whole new way.... entering into a new level of intimacy. if he doesn't talk to you, try speaking in his "love language". if he has given up, examine maybe where you can inspire what you originally had with him. (not that this is your responsibility but see what effect it has. maybe you'll start to feel more of what you want happening out of the marriage. chances are he really loves you. many reasons make men seem distant, or change after the marriage has gotten underway. he may have just forgotten or given up on knowing how to communicate with you. men often want to please, they just often don't know how sometimes or feel too beaten to try. sometimes personalities change because of life circumstances or pressure or just because. but the primary love needs are the same. and meeting these in another human being can have profound effect on their response. we are human and most of us want acceptance and to please people. not to say this is your responsibility...im just helping to give ideas.

If you KNOW you can't stand this man and have absolutely NO desire to be in his presence any longer, the best thing you can do is to leave. It will be the most hurtful thing to stay with a man and pretend while ignoring the problems or your lack of love.

I'd suggest taking a time out to pray about it, get clear, communicate whatever you can to him in a non-blaming way... seek advice from friends/ a counselor.....then lastly a lawyer.

I don't recommend divorce based on your question though. sounds like you are just dealing with a short-term stall of your feelings toward him. Love weathers the seasons, remember that. Marriage is hard but there is a lot of great help out there.

A book i just picked up tonight, Men are from Mars, when are from Venus....is a great book (i recommend a counselor but if you cant stand the thought of sitting with someone) pick this one up. it has funny stories and will inspire you ....also why men love bitches..even funnier with a great message. helped me sooo much with my relationship! (don't be scared off by the title). both at least will provide you a good laugh. last of all, God loves you and didn't lead you to a failed marriage. there is a point... he will help you through.

anyway, best of luck! it's gonna be ok! :)