How do you help someone who is a pathological liar?
You don't. YOU GET AWAY FROM THEM.
(see definitions of Narcissist and Sociopath)
(see definitions of Narcissist and Sociopath)
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Pathological liars - or "mythomaniacs" - are people who engage in objectively puposeless story telling behavior. The stories they tell are not the products of delusions and se…rve no external purpose other than to inflate the value of the teller in the eyes of the listener. The actual existence of mythomania separate from other diagnoses as a symptom set is a controversial topic in the mental health field. The symptom set for Mythomania is strictly limited: 1) The subject is not delusional and the stories they tell are at least technically plausible. If the subject is actually delusional, a diagnosis of a condition with psychotic features is more appropriate. 2) The tendency to construct such stories is non-transient, and long lasting. The story telling behavior is an actual personality trail. 3) The tendency is clearly non-situational and the subjects motives are objectively internal. The stories are not lies told from fear, or to cover a long pattern of misconduct (spousal abusers and confidence tricksters for instance are not mythomaniacs although they often construct elaborate webs of lies for years to cover their abuse or trick their victims. Such lies are situational and objectively external. The abuser is attempting to evade punishment). 4) The stories tend to present the teller in an extremely positive light, but otherwise provide no material benefit to the teller. The story may suggest that the teller is intensely brave, wealthy or may know many famous people, but the teller derives no benefit from fostering this belief, other than people believing the story. The term is often misused to refer to those suffering from histrionic personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder. The following comments basically reflect a pathological liar who has the characteristics of histrionic personality disorder. Some Characteristics : . Exaggerates things that are ridiculous. . One-upping. Whatever you do, this person can do it better. You will never top them in their own mind, because they have a concerted need to be better than everyone else. This also applies to being right. If you try to confront an individual like this, no matter how lovingly and well-intentioned you might be - this will probably not be effective. It's threatening their fantasy of themselves, so they would rather argue with you and bring out the sharp knives than admit that there's anything wrong with them. . They "construct" a reality around themselves. They don't value the truth, especially if they don't see it as hurting anyone. If you call them on a lie and they are backed into a corner, they will act very defensively and say ugly things (most likely but depends on personality), but they may eventually start to act like, "Well, what's the difference? You're making a big deal out of nothing!" (again, to refocus the conversation to your wrongdoing instead of theirs). . Because these people don't value honesty, a lot of times they will not value loyalty. So watch what you tell them. They will not only tell others, but they will embellish to make you look worse. Their loyalty is fleeting, and because they are insecure people, they will find solace in confiding to whomever is in their favor at the moment. . They may be somewhat of a hypochondriac. This can come in especially useful when caught in a lie, for example, they can claim that they have been sick, or that there's some mysteriously "illness" that has them all stressed out. It's another excuse tool for their behavior. . Obviously, they will contradict what they say. This will become very clear over time. They usually aren't smart enough to keep track of so many lies (who would be?). Another Wiki s contributor adds: . They lie about even the smallest things. For example, saying "I brushed my teeth today," when they didn't. . They add exaggerations to every sentence. . They change their story all the time. . They act very defensively when you question their statements. . They believe what they say is true, when everyone else knows it isn't. An alternate 'checklist': . Lies when it is very easy to tell the truth. . Lies to get sympathy, to look better, to save their butt, etc. . Fools people at first but once they get to know him, no one believes anything they ever say. . May have a personality disorder. . Extremely manipulative. . Has been caught in lies repeatedly. . Never fesses up to the lies. . Is a legend in their own mind. More opinions and input from Wiki s contributors: . I have found a few differences in pathological liar and a "slime ball" liar. Pathological liars cannot tell that they are lying; they actually believe the lie as soon as it comes out of their mouth. They lie about unimportant things that don't really matter to anyone. This can be caused by mental defect but isn't always. Slime-ball liars lie about things that make them look better or embellish to get attention. They also lie to keep their butts out of trouble and to get what they want. . Here are things to ask yourself: How could this many things happen to one person? Would believe these stories if someone else told you? Think back to the beginning: you had red flags and alarms going off in you head. Learn to trust your instincts. . It is very hard to tell when one is a pathological liar. Some people just are liars and lie to lie because they can and they don't care about getting caught and aware that you know they have lied. These people care not about lying, it's no big deal. It's like "ok, so what? I lied". The pathological liar on the other hand, IS aware that they are lying BUT will go to extremes to make you believe that they are truthful. They appear to believe their own lies BUT in truth, they know their lies are just that, lies. But because their efforts are constantly backing up their lies, it appears to us that they actually believe their lies, when we eventually do find out about them and then we tend to feel sorry for these people. Then they have an excuse, "I am sick, I don't know why I lie, I believed what I was saying etc." The only truth was the fact that they don't know why they lie. Other than that it's crap. It is true that most of them have an extremely low sense of self worth and are continuously trying to make themselves feel better about THEMSELVES and this is one reason they lie. It is about them but the lies are not always set up with the purpose to hurt some one else; it's that these people feel so low about themselves they need to create ANYTHING different from the ugly reality they feel about themselves so they lie about even the most tiniest little thing. The people closest to them get sucked into these lies which sometimes start as something very trivial and then turn into something that can turn everyone involved worlds upside down and inside out. . Unmasking the pathological liar is an easier task when the pathological liar is no more than a casual acquaintence to the "un-masker." Close relationships provide camouflage for the pathological liar, and intimacy provides a heavily-fortressed breeding ground. . Other indicators: 1) Rage attacks after they realize you're questioning their lies. 2) Distraction techniques, e.g. hanging up the phone when you catch them in lie, playing word games, or even just running out of the room. After using the distraction technique, or rage attack, or sometimes both, they will pretend that nothing ever happened. They re-write history, so it never did happen in their minds. Normal people do it too, but these people take it to the extreme. . From "Go Ask Alice": Lies are unplanned and impulsive. Behavior is repeated over a long period of time. Lies don't seem to exist for any external reason. Behavior may not always be a conscious act. Lies are admitted, changed, and/or adapted if a false story is challenged. . From Andrea Broadbent "The Truth about Truman": To begin, the definition of pathological actually means abnormal or grossly atypical. Therefore, a pathological liar prevaricates more frequently than the average person or tells more abnormal lies. In most cases, pathological liars tell lies that are "unplanned and impulsive" (Hausman). These lies are usually very emotional stories that tend to serve no purpose except to impress people (Ford 133). As of now, psychiatrists are unsure whether or not pathological liars are fully capable of realizing if and when they are lying, so detecting whether or not a person is a pathological liar is a very difficult task (Hausman). By looking at the list of conditions commonly connected with people considered to be pathological liars, psychiatrists are better able to determine whether or not a person might actually have the disorder. Some main qualities linked with pathological liars include dysfunctional family origin, family lying patterns, anomalies of sexual life, frequent substance abuse, and a great capacity for language. . From Raymond Lloyd Richmond, Ph.D. "Psychological Honesty": Even a pathological liar carries deep in his heart a desire for goodness and honesty and yet, because of painful emotional wounds, believes that the world never has, and never will, recognize his pain. And so, to hide that pain from himself, he uses all the lies he can concoct to hurl at the world as he runs in fear from his own goodness. . For me, the first indication has been that I hear them tell different things to different people and they can't all be right, because they directly contradict each other! And I am able to prove it. If you can prove over and over again that things someone is telling you are outright false, then you have a pathological liar on your hands. . With the Internet, it is now easier than ever to "fact-check" even the most mundane things. I think pathological liars often lose track of all of the lies they tell different people and it will eventually catch up with them.
Answer . If a pathological liar wants help, I mean really wants help. then yes there is help, But often they begin to believe their own lies so much. that they don't even …relize that they are lieing, and if they don't relize that they are lieing. then they cannot relize they need help.
Answer . "No, people who lie do it on purpose, and sometimes they lie for so many years when they are telling a story that is not true they may think it is because lying ha…s become such a part of life they can't tell they are doing it anymore. The only cure is the person changing the bad habit.". That's rather inaccurate.. The term pathological lying essentially translates to uncontrollable lying. This can mean that a person who is suspected of pathological lying is considered to have a disease, and therefore cannot control the lying. However, psychologists and psychiatrists fail to account for a specific definition of pathological lying as a disease. It can be symptomatic of other conditions, like antisocial personality disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) or attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). It is not always present in these conditions, so a clear treatment set for pathological lying has not been defined.. Many people who exhibit pathological lying also clearly exhibit symptoms of other treatable conditions. Conditions like ADHD and OCD are treatable through medication, though different ones. This makes accurately diagnosing underlying conditions important. The last thing one would want to give a person with OCD is a stimulant like Ritalin, which would likely exacerbate their disorder.. Personality disorders that contribute to pathological lying may also respond to a combined treatment of psychiatric medication and cognitive behavioral therapy. The goal with pathological lying must in the end be to treat any evidence of illness or conditions that may influence the lying. This may include medications and the use of behavioral therapy to help the person overcome compulsive lying.
Answer . This is difficult, firstly the person in question needs to realise they have a problem, and it doesn't matter how many times someone else tells them, they need to… arrive at the realization on their own terms. Mostly liars seem to think their behaviour is normal, of course it depends on the person. Does the liar acutally believe his own lies? Or are they simply willing to go to any lengths to try and convince others of his liars - regardless of the consequences, this is often the difference between a pathological liar and a compulsive liar. If they finally do realise they need help, then approaching a doctor would be the first step, as they will recommend further treatment, probably with a psychiatrist. Unfortunatly there is no easy cure, and no pills that will really help, the only way for them to stop lieing is to discover the reason behind their actions, it is a long and difficult road but if they are determined they can beat this..
What are the best way of telling someone that he is a pathological liar and he can really believe it and go for help?
This isn't easy and the person may know and just be taking advantage of you?Traditionally sit down and talk to them about it.I think perhaps if you kept a diary of their lies …and showed it to them.However they may not be a pathological liar especially if your the only one he's lying too?If your completley positive that they're suffering from this condition you can phone their dr and discuss your concerns. The dr can't discuss his medical information with you but he can listen to your concerns and make him an appointment raise the issue with him and refer him to a psychiatrist. x
Answer . it is dificult, and most of the time it takes professional help, but i believe that as long as the person has someone devoted to helping overcome their illness, than… they can do it. it takes a lot of work and sometimes many years but it is defenitly overcomeable.
The best way to tell if someone is a pathological liar, is to catchthem in their lies. If you cant determine that they are a liar,it's best not to trust them until they prove …otherwise, to keepyourself from getting hurt.
You can tell that someone is a pathological liar if you catch themin lies often. If you consistently think that someone is lying,this could mean they are a pathological liar.
Treat everything they say as potentially untrue.
Because they have lied so much that they have lost all conscientious pangs and are callus to doing wrong of this sort. So that above answer was completely conceited and wr…ong. I am a pathological liar. Therefore I am the best person to tell you about pathological liars. Right, pathological liars lie because they find it too uncomfortable to tell the truth, much like how an honest person finds it hard to lie. However, we lie about the most mundane thing sometimes. I even make up stories to win an argument. Also, most people will tell you that we lose track of our lies. For me that is not true, I have an excellent memory capacity and therefore can remember nearly every important lie I've told. Furthermore we have not lost all conscientous pangs and we are usually not callus. This person was obviously thinking of a sociopath which is completely different to a pathological liar. We don't lie to advance our own goals unlike sociopaths, we lie because it feels comfortable for us. An example was today in my class. I was asked if it was my birthday due to a prior conversation with a friend. I just said yes out of instinct (even though it wasn't). Now there is now harm done in that lie. I got sung happy birthday and nothing bad happened. We have spent so much lieing that it is second nature to us. I hope I have helped you understand.
counseling. There are Liars Anonymous much like any other Twelve Step fellowship as well if you live in a large city there is greater chances that there is one in your area.
Yeah. Get rid of the pathologically credulous and the liars will have no one to fabricate to.
that's joke , you know it. that's good don't be trapped
Keep a private journal with date & time and what they say.. But if they are pathological they won't believe you - you will have to get away from them ASAP - there is no cure.…
of course its better if someone dare enough with a positive mind .the love should be more of UN- conditional and divine can even call prayers by invoking divine angels for the…ir love light. better not to expect positive endearments or love energy in return. allow them free associations, and one have to enjoy the talks and deeds to a great extent, still lovingly engage persistently, with all appropriate endearments as to the situations. sharing similar thoughts patterns, visionaries, developing empathic confidence all will help to win love to some extent. as far as casual methods of interventions are concerned; , the lover can share some valuable information to the medical team to cure pathological liar like elaborating peculiar behavior patterns and traits , psycho-physiological symptoms if any or any other sort of apparent description about the subject's actions, talks and about the textured facial gestures, uncontrollable muscle movements, rare emotional reflections etc or any details considered to be relevant. medical science following some generic options of interventions ; neurological ,nutritional, neuropathological,genetical,etc; a holistic approach , with medicine less treatments and psychotherapy will cure the patient. integrated approach makes sure fast results. for more detailed guide lines write to firstname.lastname@example.org. site; www.drug-medicinelesstreatment.com
Sounds a little odd, but works. 1. Look down at your nose for 3 complete seconds. 2. Stare at your wall for 30 minutes. Make sure that is the only think your focusing on and… your not thinking about anything else. This helps relax you and remove all anger out of your body system. 3. Do this at least twice a day. When you wake up and before going to sleep. 4. Every time your about to say a lie, bite your tongue, and stop yourself. 5. If none of this works I suggest talking to a physiologist. The first 2 steps will gradually work. You have to give time and patience. Over time you will see improvement in your pathological lies.