How do you get to a narcissism person?

Answer 1

Survival Tips

1. Arguments, you have 2 choices

A) Agree with what they say and avoid a nasty confrontation

or

B) Disagree, have a nasty confrontation

Many people will suggest you choose A, however I urge you to choose B. By choosing B it might be upsetting but you are standing up for your rights and putting boundaries up which are important to have around these people. Calmly and assertively say "I disagree". The narcissist will not like it but he will respect it none the less. They respect strength as they are cowards. If you want to hang around these people, or you have to, be prepared for conflicts.

You must stand up for your rights at the beginning. It's easier than at the end when you're wrapped around his finger.

2. Another powerful tool during an argument or confrontation is inaction. If someone demands that you respond to something we usually do, but you dont have to. Silence is powerful. I'm not talking about the silent treatment. More like you don't have to answer every question they ask you. They don't own you, remind them.

3. When rejecting them, dont be cruel and mean, even though they were to you. Simply drift apart slowly, eventually they will catch on and try desperately to reject you first, lol. This delusion is good for them and you!!! Dont remind them that you rejected them. They don't like rejection, and they don't handle it very well.

4. If you feel the need to get revenge, which you probably will, remind yourself that the narcissist is his own worst enemy and he is far more miserable than you are! He is wearing a mask that is hiding an abandoned child, sad and lonely, a rejected child, and of course a monstrous insecurity. He doesn't want you to realize who he really is, simply because he does not want to be rejected. The narcissist is continually rejected which reinforces the idea that something is wrong with him.

5. The narcissists true identity is well hidden in his lies and manipulation. However there is one HuGegive away. This giveaway is the insecurity. When people are insecure it shows,

a. can you see it in his eyes and facial expressions

b. does he make fun of other people all the time

c. does he talk bad about everyone

d. do you feel insecure around him

e. does being wrong cause a nasty reaction to the narcissist

f. does he belittle you

g. does he make you feel good and bad, does he build you up and then rip you apart

h. is his smile too strong, too exagerrated. Do his emotions change quickly

6. My last tip. If he does make you feel pathetic, insecure, or inferior, don't let him know; just laugh it off. In fact you should joke about yourself afterwards. Show him you were not hurt. This is expressing strength. No one should be ashamed of not living up to the expectations of the narcissist. He can't even live up to his own. Next time you make a mistake that you know the narcissist would have torn you to pieces for, remember that no one else would have. Its just him.

Answer 2

That's a difficult question to answer. The study is still going on there and it's many things, sometimes unrelated to each other that can cause it. Some studies claim it's the effect the the parents had on the child. Other studies claim its caused by any childhood trauma. Still others, and I am more partial to this one, say its already wired in the individuals DNA. It just takes childhood occurrences to manifest. There are many people that are exposed to childhood trauma. They all don't turn out to be narcissists.

Answer 3

They are born that way. A narcissist is just a milder form of a psychopath, they can feel shame and guilt but that is all.

You will know when you have been around a narcissist because you will feel used abused and robbed.

Read all you can on this horrific disorder.

Answer 4

One of the reasons for developing such behavior are due to feeling of insecurity,incompetence,not getting attention from everyone at all times which result constant 'fear' and restlessness.

Answer 5

If you are constantly talking in an overly positive way about yourself, you may be becoming a narcissistic person. Narcissism is a personality disorder.