How do you catch your wife if she is cheating?
One option is to hire a private detective to follow the person in question. An alternative may be to place hidden cameras throughout the home.
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If you both want to save the marriage, your wife needs to admit to the affair and end it as of this moment. She needs to have no contact with the man she was having the affair… with, even if this means quitting a job. She needs to explain why she had the affair--what were the issues she had in your marriage that made her decide to be with someone else? She should also agree to marital counseling with you, or at the least some counseling with a priest or a pastor. If she has no interest in giving up the affair or going to counseling, there isn't a lot you can do to save the marriage. Answer its almost impossible to please anybody now days and cheaters can go long periods straight but will cheat again .. send her packin and get a hiv test unless your into self punishment then give her another chance Answer First thing you need to do is recognize that there are serious problems in the marriage, and that your "wife" is not the honest, caring, considerate person that she claimed to be. Second thing you must do is immediately talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are, as they vary by state. Third thing you do is objectively evaluate your situation. Are there kids involved ? If you have no kids, then divorce her immediately. Remember women & men are different. Men cheat because of the physical. Women cheat because of the emotional attachment, thus when a woman cheats it is almost always over. If you elect to stay in the marriage it is CRITICAL that you evaluate your financial contributions from this point forward. If you are the primary financial provider, you must, you absolutely must protect your financial interests by declaring a legal separation. Being separated doesn't necessarily mean you are getting a divorce, but what it does mean is that you will not be liable for future financial obligations.Set up separate bank accounts, and make sure she is contributing financially to the household. Have an attorney draw up a QRDO, and immediately divide the 401k. Essentially treat the marriage as a financial partnership, because essentially this is the only way you can possibly save yourself. Next both of you go to counseling and see what happends. Lastly if you even remotely suspect her of continuing the affair, spy on her. Load software on the computer to get her keystrokes. Check the cell phone usage. Chances are if you think she is cheating, then she probably is. Good luck. Keep the faith. Answer First, catch the wife in the act, that way, she doesnt get half of the marital assets nor custody of the kids. Here no matter the reason you go to court for divorce it's a no fault. Though in this state it's on the record that a woman actually served jail time for having sex with another man. Go figure. Unless the couple has a agreement before hand, everything gets split. 50 50. Sorry buddy she gets the billard table you get the shafts I mean sticks. Answer Once a cheater, always a cheater. My Mormon wife cheated on me twice! And she did the same thing to her ex-hubby. Answer If you suspect your wife/spouse/partner/lover is cheating on you, even if it is the most difficult thing for you to do, give her the benefit of the doubt. It's not always right or correct, even as being our first instinct, to point a finger and accuse a woman of cheating. Everyone knows that it is scientifically proven that men are 13x more likely to cheat than women, however, there are the few and far-between women that actually DO cheat. Think of it on a positive note, though: if she cheated on you, it wasn't meant to be, and you can go on with your life after a time of which you feel comfortable, and move on to bigger and much better things in your life. Answer Understand that you now have the answer to whether you wife is the cheating type. Two options: 1) Stay with her; which is showing her that there is no penalty for doing it. Then wait for the next time, which will certainly be in your future. 2) Be hurt,betrayed,and sad that she ruined the relationship built on trust. Talk out you feelings with her to get things out for both of you. Then tell her you understand her explanation, you still care about her, and accept what she did. Then tell her you hope she understands now, just like she said she did when you got married, that you can not be with someone that you cannot trust. If she "learned her lesson" or "mistake", remind her that now she knows the consequences, when she finds someone else. Then offer to help her pack. Answer As a Muslim, this is punishable by death! You see people, God gave us the Ten Commandments so we can live righteoulsy. If we all abide by these, there's no need for counseling, no expensive lawyers to pay, and above all no plague on this world. But man wants to create his own set of rules in life. Not a good idea..because no one can ever beat the Laws of God. It is perfect in every sense. If a wife cheats, she'll burn in hell for all eternity. This is a fact and you must always remember this. How could you enter Paradise if you had cheated on your husband!!! This is insane! Shame on those cheating wives. You had made a lifetime commitment to your husband, and you should never cheat on him. If ever this happens to you, may God forbid... tell her this straight into her eyes; " May God have mercy on you on the Day of Judgement". All shall feel the wrath that awaits those who cheat! May God the Almighty have mercy on your souls. Answer Sins of the flesh. The flesh is weak. SEX is a basic instict in all. Though I personally beleave in a couple mantaining the basics of a relationship won't be shocked when a affair is discussed first. "open" relationships or swingers fear no pain from having sex with others. Watching is fun & builds a closness like nothing else can. In PA. adultery is punishable up to 3 years in prison if proven in court (1997 women servered time-3 months). Death now hmmmm. I am thinking to myself that her life is less than my own. A woman is to be treasured...shared if need be. Depends on the person/people. If you allow yourself such rage & selfishness to want death because your ego your frail feelings are hurt than you can have that 'god'. My GOD forgives & allows mistakes or growth. But in the end if you can't talk to your mate about fantasy or outside relationship sex as a release.. I.E. Roll play her another woman as she's blindfolded. Call her the name aloud. If you can't be honest & state needs... I need to explore sexual more with you. He should help....not push her away. Anyway I see it like this: 56% of American are divorced. Over 70% cheat on their spouse. LIEING about it the entire time. Caught on video & still deny it too. This country will never grow as a strong nation if the families aren't able to stregthen the next generation by using example as a teaching tool. Watch parents rationly solve issues like infidelity or even minor ones like compromising on financial investing. One year use her plan. Next use his. See which is working for the growth of/to wealth. I would not hide the hurt & distane from partner but I wouldn't allow it to KILL a part of myself. Couples that marry are YOKED! Answer You need to talk to her about it. Tell her it has to stop and then suggest going through counseling, together and separate. If she doesn't want to end the affair, you will probably have to leave her, or just deal with the affair. It will be healthier for everyone if you and she separate if she isn't willing to stop though. This is a very tough situation and you need to do what you think is best for you. Answer Tell her you know, and tell him you know, make sure he understands you wont put up with it. Answer Give her an ultimatum: Either immediately fire her secretary, end the affair, and go to marriage counseling with you, or you'll take the kids and leave. If she refuses to stop, pack up and leave. Tell her you won't come back until she stops and agrees to go to counseling. You don't deserve to have to put up with that sort of thing.
It's obvious your wife is searching for something she isn't finding in her marriage so ask her that question. Whatever it is, she's had enough chances and it's time you laid d…own the law. No, she IS NOT trying or she wouldn't be in contact with this other man. She fooled you into believing she was listening to the marriage counselor and going to give it a try. Tell her she has to make a choice between this guy she is seeing or you! Make her face her children with the announcement that you are at least getting a separation. She knows what she is doing is wrong. Don't take it out on the guy she's seeing, because she's an adult woman that can form the words "no" on her lips. I know you are trying to cope with your marriage and partly for the sake of the children, but if your wife continues on with her behavior then see a lawyer and be sure you can prove that she is cheating on you and get at least the separation under these circumstances. I suggest a separation rather than a divorce because the shock of you walking away from her may straighten her out and she may realize that the grass on the other side of the fence isn't always greener. If she continues on with this guy then go for the divorce. There is no sense ruining your life along with hers and staying together for the sake of the children isn't always best for the children if the two of you aren't getting along. Children are very tuned in to the fact something is wrong between mom and dad. Good luck! Answer That depends on you. Will you ever be able to trust her again. If you feel you want to work it out, that takes two. If you don't want to work it out then don't stoop to a lower level than she did by cheating. Divorce her and find someone that will treat you with the respect you deserve. Had she not been happy with your marriage she should have been mature enough to come to you before the "act" and be honest with you. Now the ball is in your court. I would be fair and give her what she would need to start over, with in reason. She didnt choose to make the right decision so she shouldn't get the lions share of the goodies you've built together. I would say split any household items in half. Like one gets the washer one gets the dyer. Split all the dishes and linens. If you have two cars give her one. If there are payments on either, split them. Divorce does not have to be ugly and trust me when I tell you, you will make a smoother transition if you are fair and honest with yourself. You can rise above this sad situation. By the way if there are children involved then you both remain the best parents you can be to the kids, don't put them in the middle of any arguements and realize the only thing that is going to change between the two of you are the living arrangements. Every other aspect with the kids remains the same. Be fair about that two and if you make arrangements to split the kids time between homes then be sure to not give her too much money to "help" raise the kids, its even in that respect. Good luck and keep your head up , this too shall pass.... I think you should leave her! If you let her get away with it she will do it again and again. There is no excuse for cheating period! If she is unhappy in your relationship she should have come to you and tried to fix it. Going out and sleeping with another man is not the answer. In my opinion she is lucky you did'NT drop kick her and the man she slept with. What kind of person does something like that after 18 years of marriage. I would say you cant trust her anymore, its time to take out the trash! I am sure you deserve better. Answer Yes, you should consider it because if you two cannot work through this than how can you trust her anymore. Are the two of you willing to go for counseling. Divorce is a ugly way to end a relationship but sometimes it has to be done. If you two can move on with the relationship then more power to you if not don't be ugly with one another just move on with your lives.
Answer . Answer . If he hasn't cheated before then it's time to sit down and communicate because something is lacking in your marriage or, perhaps your husband is simply …trying to recoup their youth by having an affair with a younger woman. If he hasn't cheated before this then try to work things out and if you don't think you can handle that route then separate for a few months to see what happens and if you don't think you can reconcile then file for divorce.
There are two ways to catch your wife if she is cheating: #1 you can ask a friend if he will drive you around to see where your wife goes and try to catch her that way or, #2 …hire a detective on the days you feel your wife is cheating (sometimes it could be during the week or specifically on the weekends.)
You can - just depends on two things: if she actually is and how expensive you want to go in order to find out. Anything from nanny cams to private investigators can help you …figure out if your spouse is cheating on you. Just be careful - if she isn't cheating, this may just drive her away.
You should check her phone while she is not using it, and check for signs like she doesn't want to have intercourse or she is always leaving. Or you can hire a private investi…gator. Or you can talk to her.
First of all, my sympathies. Your wife has injured, maybe even destroyed, your ability to trust her. Trust is one of the most valuable parts of a relationship. You have a c…hoice to make: end the marriage, or try to fix it. Hopefully, your wife wants the same thing. If she doesn't, you have no healthy choice but to divorce. If you choose to end the marriage, try to do it firmly but fairly. Honor the love you once had, but get a lawyer. If you choose to try to fix it (and I hope you do, frankly), the two of you are probably going to need counseling. Meet with a couples counselor and see if you can work with him or her. (Reputable therapists will "give you" that meeting, and only charge for it if you decide to use their services.) It really helps to shop around a bit -- try to interview three therapists, then choose the one the two of you feel most comfortable with. The pain of this may be with you for a long time. But if the two of you come through it, your marriage may actually emerge stronger. Good luck! I read an article by John Gray. He said that cheating is in a way...good! Now! listen!!! What he means is this! That cheating can be used as a barometer to see what is missing! There is where you need to look at/for! Yes! cheating is not good. But! it is something worth looking into!
Not in this case, as both the wife and the employee are held responsible.
you don't. simple. ANSWER: Do you really wanna go there? If you want so badly the simple way is for you to see and talk to a divorce lawyer. Then move out so that way y…our wife will not have no issue with you and she can avoid drama. Man! you are something else...do you go to church? ANSWER: By thinking about it enough to post this question. You are cheating in your mind already. I'm sorry for your wife.
Then in the unlikely event that he leaves her for you, he will one day cheat on you with another. You should move on, now. He's not worth it, and it's not fair to the wife who… has done you no wrong.
yikes. When you catch her cheating, she'll act all surprised and say that him and her are just best friends. Her other boyfriend might agree, but say you know she's cheating. …I'd ask her who she choses. If she choses you, never let her leave the house unless you know where she's going, but if she choses him. Rip that ring right off her fat finger and chuck it in a sink. Then say you loved her until now. Then make sure she's around when you propose again. ;D My two cents: It depends on her personality and the reasons that she's cheating. Different reasons = different excuses = different reactions.
First, you need to make sure the child is yours, than be the first to file for custody. The adultery is generally not considered an issue. see links below
ANSWER: If your wife is been acting strange or the two of you are having a problem, the only thing you can do is be a man and talk to her. One mistakes we all do is when coup…les have problems, instead of facing and solving problems we avoid it and move on. So why not make time for your wife so the two of you can talk. Don't ignore the sign, or it might really happen.
you get divorced and lose a best friend or talk through it
Walk away from the relationship. If you cant trust somebody then why be with them.
First it depends on how long they were togerther...2nd it depends on how many kids they have togerther...3rd where she catches him. I know for a fact, Its nothing to want to b…e in that situation! To many different stories to tell. There is always 2 sides to the story!