What is a polite way to ask a guy if he is gay?

Answer 1

That can be a difficult subject to approach. You want to ask it in a very empathetic way and not be too in their face about it. I had some people ask me through facebook which was really nice of them. I think it is a good thing to ask if you are wondering. A lot of people think asking is an invasion of privacy.

The only way it is invasive is if it is asked rudely like "are you a Beeping gay guy" which is completely inappropriate of course.

So just ask politely and if they say no and you still feel they are not telling the truth don't force them to answer. You may be wrong or they may be still hiding.

Answer 2

"Excuse me, sir, but are you gay?"

Seriously, why are you thinking of asking? If someone wants to tell you, that's fine, but why would you ask?

If it is a friend of yours, and you really want to know, you don't have to be so polite about it. What is his attitude to gay people in general? You should know that if he is your friend.

Answer 3

Asking someone if they are gay can be very awkward for both parties.

Be sensitive to the person's feelings to whom you are asking the question.

If this is someone you are close friends with, make sure to tell them you'll be friends with them no matter what their answer may be, and that their answer will remain confidential.

Often people who are asked very personal questions like "Are you gay?" will become defensive, even to the point where they are not going to give you an honest answer. Respect their answer, no matter what it is. If the person isn't ready to have the conversation, then at least they know that you are interested in their life.

If you approach the question and the person with respect and openness, hopefully they will respond in turn.

Answer 4

reseach and find out the signs. If all signs match up it is ok to ask him. If he is Not, you are skrewed. Be serious when you ask, and if he gets mad at you he will soon get over it and move on. It is just a question, don't make a big deal about it and he won't either.

Answer 5

"It doesn't matter to me and it's really none of my business, but are you gay?"

and how will you reply if they say, "Why do you ask?"?

You may or may not get a true answer and make sure you want the answer and can deal with it.

Answer 6

Ask him carefully! If he is gay he may not want to tell you. If he is not gay he might get upset. If you are gay and you want to know if he is, then talk to him about gays in the army, or gay marriage and see what his feelings are. If he is seriously against them, then he probably isn't.

If you are just being inquisitive, button your lip. You don't need to know.

Answer 7

Unless you are very close, or you can see the person is hurting in some way (and you want to help), it is best not to get involved in the other person's private business. For some people, the internal struggle with sexual orientation is intense and private.

Answer 8

You shouldn't. While it is becoming more and more acceptable to be gay, for a multitude of reasons, people may not be comfortable disclosing that information. If and when they choose to share that aspect of their life with you, they will do it when they feel comfortable with it.

Answer 9

Just ask him you will definetely know if he is. Prefewreably say " omg plz dnt tell me ur gay ur too cute for that" trust me it so works.