How can you tell if someone really cares about you or he just really want to get you in bed?

Answer 1

I do believe that if he really likes you then he will respect your wishes. If you are not ready for sex, then he should give you time. It also depends on the age of the boy. Most young guys usually only have one thing on their minds. That is just the way life goes... that doesn't mean you have to do it. It is really hard to give advise on this because I think every women in the world has had the experience of sleeping with a guy that she thought really liked her and then he dumps her after getting what he wants. Just remember to take care of yourself and listen to your heart.

i had a boyfriend last year and i really liked him and he asked me out and i said yes...we were really affectioate and 3 days later he said :"when am i gonna get to hit that??"i thought that i was an idiot for liking him...well if a boy gets a little to affectionate then be carful he might be just trying to get in your pants!

Answer 2

Well if a guy just wants you for sex you can allways tell like if he is always touching and rubbing all over you for instance and boy do I mean always if he really loves you for you and not your body he will respect your thoughts and your bounderies Thanks:PHYLLICIA SPECK P.S.VISIT MY BIO PAGE :]

Answer 3

Well if you really want to know if a guy just wants you in his pants, he usually tells you everything you want to hear. He tries to sit next to you and sometimes, if your going out, he kisses you on a couch or on a bed so he can lead you into having sex with him. Trust me I know this feeling. The way you can find out if a guy just wants to get into your pants is by trying to become really good friends with his best guy friends and soon enough if you ask them if he's really interested in girls or just interested in whats underneath their clothes. They will tell you the truth. but be careful because sometimes guys can lie and really crush you bad. Another tip on knowing if a guy just wants to get into your pants is if you catch him pretending to care about what your talking to him about; some signs of this are as soon as you turn your head and look in the corner of your eye you see him rolls his eyes and say to one of his friends in lip motion, I really don't give a crap. If he never looks at your face and just at your boobs or your ass or your body from the chest down then he's just a player looking for a little toy to play with. Some guys are like that and don't be ashamed if the guy you like is like that because there's plenty more guys out there that actually are looking for a REAL RELATIONSHIP not just some little toy to play with. So good luck!

Answer 4

If you suspect that a guy is only interested in you for your body, there are ways to weed that out. When you first start going out, tell him almost as a forwarning that you aren't interested in sex, either because you want to keep your virginity for a while or because you are just interested in a more deep relationship right then and you don't believe that you need sex to enjoy a relationship. If he tries something after you start going out, stop him before he can get anywhere, and if you suspect him of doing this have a conversation with him about it before going anywhere alone with him. Just make sure that you lay it out that you don't want to have sex right away (even if you do) and if he loses interest quickly it pretty much tells you why he wanted to be with you in the first place, doens't it?

Answer 5

Easy, just by the way he acts. If the guy is sort of hinting about it or making really lame jokes about it like, "Oh, wouldn't it be funny if we had sex?". These idiots are easy to spot and do not get suckered by them. Just watch their body language, guys have a hard time hiding it when all they want is sex. Don't get played, just play it smart.

Now, if you think he may like you, well that's different. A guy that really likes you is usually someone who likes to spend his time getting to know you. Calling you, talking to you, etc., this is generally what a guy will do in order to show you that he is actually interested in you. Of course, some guys may do this to deceive you, but always look for these signs. He should be polite to your needs and really should never demand anything from you, such a sex. If you feel that he is not demanding stuff from you and he clearly shows a honest sign of interest, than it is quite likely he may like you.

All the best!

Answer 6

One way is to wait to have sex. If he just wants the sex he is a player and will move on to fresh meat. If he likes you he will respect you and treat you with care. He will wait to have sex. Some men just like the feeling of the "hunt" so you have to wait more than 2-3 dates. Some experts recommend 90 days and if he is "into" you he will be there at the end of 90 days.

Answer 7

Well, to put it on a more delicate basis, if you don't let him have it, and he keeps coming back to see you then you know it's not all about sex. I admire you for thinking along these lines and are not in too much of a rush to have a "squeek between the sheets." Good for you. Give the guy a chance! Good luck Marcy

Answer 8

make him wait a month or two before having sex with him...if he sticks around then chances are he is after more than just sex

Answer 9

if he always brings you up in conversation... if you see him look at you everyday.. or hide behinds corners.. or is juust a guy who wants to have sex and get your attention.