How can you stop your son's homosexuality?

Answer 1

You don't. You accept him as he is and also accept the fact that you didn't bring him into the world on condition he grow and develop in a manner that suits your beliefs and prejudices. He will have enough problems as he grows and develops and when you made the decision to have him you committed to supporting him for all his life. Stand by him.

Consider why you want to make him different. Are you afraid of the opinions of others? Do you spend your life watching and criticizing what others do with their lives, and worrying they might be doing the same to you? If so, you need to take a good, hard look at yourself and your priorities.

Do you have a problem with your son on religious grounds? If so, search your own ideals and discover whether you follow every single rule and regulation, however tiny, set down in your religious rulings of choice.

Are you concerned on grounds of health? That is just plain silly.

Speak frankly with your son about your concerns, while making it clear he is your son no matter what he is or what he does; ensure he's aware he has your support no matter what.

Anything less diminishes you as a person and makes an utter mockery of your role as a parent.

Would you suggest to others that they hesitate to consider becoming parents for fear their child or children don't live up to their ideals? Of course not. Go hug your son, tell him he's loved, and let him know you'll be there for him always.

Don't risk losing him; you'll never forgive yourself.

Adding:Talk to other parents of gay children and see how they handled their son or daughter's difference. Contact your local chapter of PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians And Gays) - visit pflag.org to find one near you, pflagcanada.ca if you're in Canada. They've been exactly where you are now, many with the same thoughts as you that this is something they must stop. But they made the choice their love for their child is stronger than the need to fit their community's views. Talk to them and get support. They understand what you're going through and can help. Another view:Instead of trying to editorialize, moralize, and talk the asker out of their question, I will attempt to answer it as written. Loving someone unconditionally doesn't mean you accept everything they choose and do. Tolerance is the opposite of true love. True love corrects and protects. If a child wants a firearm to commit suicide, you don't give them one. Likewise, a loving parent does not give a drug abusing child drugs. They get them help. A child might be born with a "running in the street" gene, but you cannot let them yield to it.

In a lot of cases, a parental lifestyle of both full acceptance and prevention is best. The parents should not divorce and remarry. The father should be a man, and neither parent should be abusive or overbearing. The parents should make sure there are no opportunities for the children to be abused nor molested by anyone, even family members. Beware of anyone who is defensive of the time they spend with your child. You can try to instill in them at a very young age that gay sexual behavior is wrong and best avoided, but not in a way that comes across as judgmental. You certainly don't want to make a big deal out of the issue and go on and on about it, because if you do, you may actually drive them to it in order to spite you.

If there is a chance for them to stop being gay, which is probably slim to none, it will only come through acceptance and love. Your love has to be strong enough to withstand their protests, temper tantrums, and immaturity. You have to be firm on your rules and boundaries, and let them know the rules are because you love them. A parent should never get any pleasure out of giving discipline. What you can do is share with them why it is displeasing to God, if they are a believer. You can try to reason with them. If you believe it is wrong, it is important to tell them what you feel. If by chance they later leave the lifestyle, you don't want them coming to you with recriminations about you not telling them. If you are religious, you can pray for them. You can try to play games that teach self-control in general. You can help them overcome any insecurity and emotional immaturity. Maybe they are poor with sports and you can help them work through it. If they have unresolved issues, you can take them to therapy for those.

Whether any of the above works is irrelevant. The goal is to have a child who is as spiritually and emotionally healthy as possible. The key is to love them for them, not their orientation.

Answer 2

You can only cure something if something is wrong.

Being gay is not wrong.

All YOU can do is figure out how to be a parent and love your son for who he is. You need to support, accept, and nurture him in his sexuality and life just as you would if he was straight.

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Gay "cure" therapy is one of the most harmful and ineffective pseudo-medicine practices. It does not work, and the only lasting effect on the person affected is a highly increased chance of self harm and suicide. If you love your son, you will get to know him on his own terms, and not even think about hurting him via any sort of fake "cure."