Has anyone recovered and moved on from a relationship with a narcissist into something good and fulfilling with a non-narcissist -- if so how?

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Absolutely! I put my N out of my head about 4 years ago! I decided once and for all that it was over and I put the rearview mirror up and never-ever looked back. We have a child, so I still must deal with him, but it is on a different level now because he FINALLY realized I was DONE! Anyway, I am now happily married to the most wonderful man on the planet and we share a real relationship. Things are not perfect, but they are REAL and COMMITTED! Once you DECIDE that you want better, you will get better. Trust me, it wasn't easy but thank God, I found the courage and our lives are now so much better. I cannot tell you how this has made my life complete...when I was involved with the N I never thought I'd ever be able to get away from him. I DID IT! I'm so proud and now my son can see first hand how a loving-committed marriage should be and will know that you can trust and love someone and they trust and love you in return. I wouldn't change a thing for myself, my husband and especially for my son! God Bless you and know that the key is in DECIDING.....and sticking to what you know is the right thing to do. Yes, HOW? Accept that they will never change but that YOU can is the start of the beginning. Refuse to play a game that you will NEVER win because as soon as you get the upper hand they WILL cheat!. Put them straight. Tell them it's over. Drop the tug-of-war rope and walk away. Then button down the hatches, lock up your doors and windows, and disappear. Don't worry about them, they sure as hell won't worry about you. You only play a part in a game of twisted and you mean NOTHING to them afterall. Don't ever forget that they are NOT like you, they are NOT normal but are a disorder, the real them died a long time ago. YES!! It is entirely possible and you will be happy. I cut my narcissist off 100%...absolutely no contact, and put him out of my head...and then I met the most wonderful man, who couldn't be any more different in every way from the narcissist..emotionally for me it was like surviving and walking out of a hurricane/earthquake devastation right into the most peaceful and calm tropical island. That is the best way I can describe the emotional transformation I have experienced. This new man in my life is the most wonderful, selfless, loving, patient, communicative, gentle man I have ever met. He dotes on me, but not in the way that a narcissist gives you attention where he sucks the life out of you and makes you exhausted. It is so possible and there is nothing about YOU that is flawed. You can attract the right man, but you need to completely cut off the narcissist physically and emotionally, no contact...so that you can leave yourself open to something incredibly wonderful. YES!! It is entirely possible and you will be happy. I cut my narcissist off 100%...absolutely no contact, and put him out of my head...and then I met the most wonderful man, who couldn't be any more different in every way from the narcissist..emotionally for me it was like surviving and walking out of a hurricane/earthquake devastation right into the most peaceful and calm tropical island. That is the best way I can describe the emotional transformation I have experienced. This new man in my life is the most wonderful, selfless, loving, patient, communicative, gentle man I have ever met. He dotes on me, but not in the way that a narcissist gives you attention where he sucks the life out of you and makes you exhausted. It is so possible and there is nothing about YOU that is flawed. You can attract the right man, but you need to completely cut off the narcissist physically and emotionally, no contact...so that you can leave yourself open to something incredibly wonderful.