Do women who appear depressed and worthless on talk shows where the topic is abuse subconciously train themselves to act that way because it can save them from the abuser attacking them on camera?

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It truly makes me amazed always, when I see people spilling their guts on a cheap talk show. Think of this ... What abused woman would go on a talk show in front of millions of people and talk about her abuse right in front of her abuser? Unless you are watching Oprah (she does not pay the people that come on her show and it's a relatively honest talk show) or Montel Williams then the rest are junk and often a set-up. Many of the other shows with shouting matches and abusive language are set-ups. People DO get paid on these shows to make complete asses of themselves. To your question ... NO! Women are truly depressed after years of abuse and are terrified of their abuser, so I'd hardly think (unless they leave that show and have some arrangements to go to a "safe house") would they dare to tell their story, for that same woman would be going home with her abuser and all hell would really break loose. Abusive women are not stupid (many smart ladies and famous ladies out there are abused) and they come from all walks of life and are from all different cultures and races. The abuser is a foxy chap, that hides his abusive nature well. He may often come off at the beginning of the relationship as this wonderful person who brings the girl flowers, gifts, and treats her like a queen, so later, when he has slowly, but slyly ripped away her dignity and self worth by beatings or verbal abuse, family and friends just can't get into their heads that indeed this jerk is an abuser. Put it this way .. If a child came to you and said they were sexually abused or beaten would you turn a blind eye? I think not. So, why turn a blind eye to a woman that would speak up about her abuse? If you were beaten or mentally abused for years you begin to believe what the abuser is telling you and it's called brain-washing. Marcy