Does a narcissist experience chronic intense envy and do they defend themselves against that envy?

Answer 1

In my experience this I believe this is true. My ex-N and I are both musicians that play the same instrument. It is clear to me now that he did a lot of things behind my back to sabotage my reputation in the music field. Although I am not necessarily a better musician, he already has a reputation for being difficult to work with as well as arrogant and conceited (no wonder, huh?) Since I have broken up with him I have been approached by many musicians and have almost more work than I can handle! I think people avoided me because of him anyway. Is he envious? You bet. I believe he is still trying to ruin my name and has now launched a major competition between us. I know he won't "win" because of his attitude, but it still makes me a bit uneasy. I don't know what lengths he will go to. It is inevitable that we will run into each other as the musician pool is not very large in my hometown. Do I think this is part of the narcissistic personality? I believe it is. They DO have to be the center of attention. Mine was always 'better than me' in his eyes. He tried to convince me that he was supportive.He would contradict himself by saying "I am so proud of your playing" and then say something like, "Well, I guess you think you'll be a rock star someday, but don't get your hopes up because I know better...so just stay realistic, huh?" Sounds like advice? Actuallly I believe that statement was meant to undermine my confidence. He had lots of such "advice" ...ha! Yes they do. The one I was with undermined and sabatoged anything good that came my way. His tone of voice would go to very cruel and he could hardly muster the words, "Congratualtions" out. He made sure to ruin all holidays etc. He loved to see me as his little puppet and all he had to do was sit back and throw some headgame my way.

Answer 2

Their response shows itself as jealousy, but the anger, from my experience with living one for 20 years, is about control. They need complete control of their environment , and everyone and everything in it. So control is the underlying root of what appears to be jealousy.

Answer 3

Very...its part of their nature. Due to "competitors" that they perceive as threats for attention, social status, etc.

Answer 4

Others? They don't have room in their minds for us "others".

Answer 5

Oh yes. Most definitely.