Are sociopaths capable of feeling sadness guilt or regret and do they ever feel bad even if it is only for themselves?
Sociopaths and feelings
- Sociopaths have NO conscience, though they know the difference between right and wrong. So they don't experience remorse or a sense of guilt. Usually they even have great difficulty owning their actions. In other words, they often can't even bring themselves to say, "Yes, I did this" if it's something society disapprove of.
- Another key characteristic of sociopaths is callousness and lack of empathy, so genuine sadness for others is something they aren't capable of.
- Many sociopaths are quite good actors. They know how to pretend to show sympathy and so on. Sometimes they give themselves away by displaying exaggerated or even melodramatic sympathy that doesn't ring true. Always look out for uncalled for drama.
- As for 'feeling bad for themselves', it usually takes the form of aggressive self-pity. As they can't accept responsibility for their own actions, they blame their misfortunes on others.
- Sociopaths are sharks in deep water. Sociopaths absolutely have no conscience and that also includes the law. To them laws are to be broken and they do not adhere to the regular social lives of others. Sociopaths don't even have pity for themselves because they have no conscience. They are callous, unforgiving, cruel and get great pleasure out of demeaning, harming another human being (even in some cases animals.) When looking into a Sociopath's eyes it's like looking at "shark eyes" ... dark, unmoving and dangerous!
- That "eye thing" has to do with a number of factors -- a sociopath will stare almost unblinkingly into another person's eyes because they watch people's reactions far more closely than most people. Why? Most other people are much better at reading each others' emotions, and at hearing what emotion is present in other people's voices. Thus, when a sociopath is "acting" and displaying tears, or some such, it is considered excessive or unreal because the tone of voice may be incongruous or the chosen words may not fit the emotion being synthesized.
- The state that a sociopath is in during a display of emotion such as weeping is simply like mental "static" -- a generalized discomfort that is almost impossible to differentiate and is then focused on getting some kind of substitute gratification. Without a conscience, it isn't possible to influence other people the way most people do, so sociopaths do it by manipulation, although sometimes what they display comes pretty close to what they'd be feeling in a given situation if they were instead normal.
- As for the eyes and emotion, many sociopaths display a sadistic glint of glee as they abandon themselves to depraved behavior and subject their victims to excruciating pain. At such moments they experience intense pleasure and may even laugh excitedly with joy.
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How do you get rid of the feelings of love you still feel for a sociopath even though you are no longer in contact?
ANSWER: I am very sorry you are experiencing this. I am too, and it is such a troubling emotion. I know, sometimes you feel like you are obsessing. Sometimes you remember al…l the wonderful times and your heart starts breaking worse. You are doing the right thing by not maintaining contact. Remember what really happened. Be very honest with yourself. See the situation for what it really was. You were very much in love, the sociopath was using you. Yes, using you. They really do not know how to treat people correctly, it simply is not in their mental makeup. They have a disorder. You are very hurt because you care about this person. The sociopath does not care about others. I don't mean to be callous, truly. This is just the way this disease/pathology is ANSWER: When you love someone, the love never really goes away it just changes. Over time this love for this person can become less overwhelming and then less important and eventually a much less significant memory. There's a joke that goes something like "to get over a man get under another". Well, if you fall in love with someone else you will automatically no longer be in love with the ex, unfortunately you don't have control over the next time you will fall in love again, so you must make do with the time healing solution for now which is no fun but it works somewhat well to the extent that it will reduce and probably even eliminate the pain associated with this feeling of loss. With time you will get used to the feeling of missing the ex. Keep in mind that you might miss him/her more than usual because sociopaths are so good at manipulation that you would end up more affected than in a relationship with someone else. A sociopath can elicit much stronger feelings in you than would happen with a normal person. You might end up being much more infatuated with the sociopath than you would have anyone else who was otherwise equally attractive to you (in looks and in the persona they presented to you). Such that you feel you love this person more than you have loved anyone else even when your logical mind says this should not be the case , that others you have been in relationships with before have treated you much better and deserved your love more. The sociopath is good at manipulating, so you are feeling these feelings as a result of the sociopath's skills. However and remember this: feelings are not reality, they are just feelings, sometimes they correlate with reality sometimes they don't, and a good manipulator can create feelings in you that are unrelated to reality. What's more important about feelings is that they come and go, and although you can't choose which ones come, you can choose to a small extent which ones you hold on to more strongly. This feeling you have now will pass, eventually. It's tough and you can't believe it now, because you've probably gotten over others much more easily than this one, but this one is different, not in a good way, and that's why you got out of the relationship. The manipulator was so good that he/she has now left you feeling that you can't get over it, but that is just one of the manipulator's tricks. When you think about him/her, change the subject in your mind - think about something else quickly, keep doing this and one day it will be over. I really hope this works because I am going to try it for myself. I too I am trying to get over a sociopath and even though I spotted this personality issue very quickly, it wasn't quickly enough for me to come out unscathed. Good luck, you made it out of the relationship and that's the real victory. ANSWER: Sociopaths know how to play innocent and from my experience, they target naive and somewhat inexperienced individuals who will succumb easily to their tactics. They get a thrill out of the sense of power and mastery over the person they are with at the moment. Their love is generally need-based. They will date you when they feel loneliness or some other type of need and will keep you around as long as you don't demand any sort of genuine intimacy that comes from truthful communication that may arise from a relational fight. Once you are no longer needed, they immediately turn their attention to a pool of women they already had in mind prior to meeting you. In fact, you were a part of that pool and you are actually no more special than the woman that they have dated before and after. They used the same tactics before you and will continue to do so afterwards, because they get a high from the feeling of respect from the adoration that they receive from their victim. Don't even feel bad for the sociopaths because of the sob stories that they tell you. When a normal person undergoes a traumatic past, they don't go around talking about it to everyone they know. They only talk about it to a trusted few. Sociopaths announce it to their victims to gain sympathy and when it comes time that you need some sympathy from him, you will never get it. If you were lying on the ground helpless, he would hop over you and run to save his own life. He will not be that guy who helps someone in need unless others are watching or unless there is some kind of visible reward. He believes that as long as he has demonstrated some sort of good works by helping a just cause, his heart is exempt. He feels in this business transaction of having given money to the poor or gone on a volunteer trip that he has fulfilled his karmic transaction. He does not see the importance of personal beliefs, because they are of no use. You can't show off integrity, so what's the point in having it? Purely driven by selfish needs, this is not someone you can ever rely on to be there for you when you fall. In fact, he is a fearful coward. Those who feel love are able to face fears of all sorts on behalf of their lover. Love brings a man to take a bullet for his beloved. That kind of a strength a sociopath can never have. If there is trouble that affects him personally, you can be sure he'll be skipping like a calf to save himself and as long as no one saw it, it's fine. Plus, he will always have an excuse and it will be an external factor that's at fault. The next worse thing that can happen to losing this person you have loved is to having him.
Why do you feel as if you are in a bad movie and are the only one who can see the entire narcissistic sociopathic behavior pattern?
Because you've made excuses for a while..... you've allowed yourself to be treated in ways you knew weren't right.... for too long. So.... that's why it looks like a bad movie…. It's a pretty dramatic story line. I couldn't write fiction as strange as my life turned out to be. As for your apparent clear vision into you N's obvious disordered behavior? Well.... lets face it. You're looking. Other's aren't. They don't want to know and you're probably the one running around behaving a bit disordered and emotionally unbalanced, lol. Slow down. Take a step back. View the situation with some distance.... like you're very high up, looking down at yourself and your N. What do you see? What would be logical actions and where do you want to be? What advice would you give to someone in your situation. ME? My advice.... is to run. Go. FAST. NOW! Tremusan Answer Again ... labeling a person a narcissist is simply arm-chair psychology and unless a professional has labeled this person then they may not be a narcissist at all, but could be depressed, abusive, or be a perfectionist, etc. The only thing that matters is the fact this person doesn't treat you well and whether this person is a narcissist or just a creep they hide their true selves well and others generally never see this side of them. It doesn't matter what other people see, you see it, so run! answer Well the last answer only exacerbates the victim's feelings of isolation. THIS is Narcissism FAQ. There is a disclaimer to deal with the issue of professional diagnoses. People come here to cuss and discuss who they believe to be a Narcissist. People who have been victimized. They want to know how to deal with the Narcissist in their life. Some FAQ questions are vague and have nothing specific to do with Narcissism. But this is not one of them. I don't see anything in this question that asks "Am I dealing with a Narcissist." The poster is asking for help and advice dealing with these bad feelings which come from being ABUSED. There is NOTHING like being victimized by an N. Other disorders and conditions pale in comparison. Trouble is diagnoses or not, you don't really realize you are dealing with an N until you have been victimized by one. And it can happen more than once. Learn to recognize the signs and be careful. Whether or not he is a true N is beside the point. Somebody who mistreats you and display the behavior of an N should be avoided. If you have mislabeled him, it's no crime. After all, he earned it because of his behavior. There is another FAQ section for abusive relationships that doesn't limit discussion to Narcissism. I think one who realizes he or she is dealing with a Narcissist would naturally gravitate to this section. One thing worse than being abused is to be discredited by those from whom you seek advice and assistance. Immediately, your opinions and interpretations are labeled "invalid." I wonder how many people have been victimized who did not "think" the other was an N but were mislead and "thought" they were perfectionist or neurotic, etc... THIS is how the N gets by in life hurting and abusing others -- because there is always someone around giving him too much credit for being humane, which he is not. THERAPISTS are notorious for that. Answer I cannot add to the previous post as she summed it up perfectly. People here need support; they do not need to be invalidated, especially their perceptions and feelings. It's a VERY positive sign when someone can recognize another to be a Narcissist! That means they can heal. They have something to work with that takes blame from the victims, and then the true healing can start! Answer http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Answer_omitted_from_this_space_and_moved_to_the_Discussion_Page . Answer The funny thing is I recall feeling as though I were in the BEST movie of my life for the first three months. I've never experienced anything like it. Then yes, it turned into a nightmare. I don't think there is anyone other than the N's intimates who ever really know and understand the depths of their issues. My N's sisters and mother thought he was "a great guy," even though they knew he had "personality and temperament" challenges. They constantly minimized his behavior (they never knew the full extent of it anyway). Seeing him through their eyes was one of the primary ways I fell in love with him -- they were very rosy glasses. He knew this would happen which is why he ONLY had me spend time with his family. We literally NEVER spent time with his friends (and their wives). This should have been a much bigger red flag than I thought in the beginning. Yet, he spent time with my friends. It was only once I began to be more honest about what was happening "behind closed doors" with one of his sisters, that she finally said, "What would you advise a friend to do in this situation?" That was the only way she could suggest getting out without betraying her brother. Still, I don't think she every really knew or understood the depths of the nightmare I was experiencing. --- answer --- Thank you very much whoever replied with "People here need support; they do not need to be invalidated, especially their perceptions and feelings." Let me tell you there is nothing worse than dealing with an N especially if you are competely blind to the fact he COULD be an N. or if some "expert" keeps telling you "nothing is wrong, he isn't an N, he hasn't been diagnosed!" It attitudes like this that cause a victim to feel they are in a bad movie and are the only ones. Please have some sympathy and support for those of us victimized by a narcissist.
Answer . That depends on how you want to do things - or do your parents have a written/verbal request of their own had this had happened? There are a variety of options …- if you want them to be able to stay at home as llong as they can they can have home healthcare workers come in and take care of them & there home there are many community care companies out there such as Home Instead Senior Care, Comcare, etc. Or there is always the option of a retirement/nursing home. However, think of things in a way such as how would you want to be treated and what would you want people to do with you at that time in your life. They can live at home with homecare then the idea of a nursing home after that. But always remember there is family as well that can take turns helping because you have to remember as well how did you get here and where you are in your life - just because your an adult now maybe they need you as you needed them.
people feel guilty when they have done something or often when they have done things for which they are extremely ashamed a result they should say sorry to their loved ones an…d again hang out with them and its better to write a letter if u read in class together so that u can write a letter and give or talk face to face but please don't call him/her over the telephone as its a bad idea
\n. \nA sociopath, by definition, does not empathize with the feelings of others.\n. \nPsychopaths, or sociopaths, cannot experience emotional feelings for others. They can …be difficult to identify, as they often possess a superficial charm. \n. \nDon't try to befriend them or to cure them; this is professional work and can lead even professionals into danger. Not all sociopaths are violent, however. This is a misconstrued notion as psychopath and sociopath are medically similar.
Sympathy.. Also Empathy which is where you can relate to someone elses problems or situation.
Sociopaths do not have the emotions that would lead to a feeling of safety. They tend to either feel in control or out of control, and react to situations on that basis and wi…th a total disregard for the preferences of others unless they can gain from them. A sociopath may say all sorts of things and claim all sorts of feelings for another in order to get his/her way, but the proof is in the doing -- consistently -- not the saying. A true sociopath cannot be cured, and will not change. If you are involved with one, take steps to get out of the relationship. Understand that there will be a lot of promises, and perhaps some superficial "caring," (the same things that attracted you to start with) but that over the long haul the duck will continue to waddle and quack.
Sociopaths have no capacity to love, or to feel empathy for others. It is extremely unlikely, therefore, that they can ever truly recognize, accept and appreciate love from an…other person. To a sociopath, a person who loves them is simply that much easier to manipulate and control.
yes the dumper feels really bad by: tierra
Sociopathy is antisocial personality disorder, characterized by alack of empathy and remorse, and by a lack of inhibition onbehaviour. So the answer is yes, they do have feeli…ngs, and anyoneclaiming otherwise is ignorant. However, unlike normal people,sociopaths lack empathy and remorse for others, and have poor selfcontrol. A sociopath may feel happy and cry for themselves, butthey won't feel anything for others. This is why a lot of the time,relationships with sociopaths tend to be destructive.
I have always considered myself to be a sociopath due to a blatant lack of understanding or care for what society classifies as "good and evil," about other people, or about l…ife in general.
i think it is bad not even caring maybe nobody you know lived there but think about all the other people and their families maybe your friend is from japan just think about al…l the hungry people who die because all their food is gone and have no money to buy more.
Yes, the impression that a sociopath or psychopath has absolutely no feelings is false. However their range of emotions are VERY limited, they may feel nothing for their dying… friend/father/grandma/uncle/cousin/girlfriend/boyfriend but will feel their world come apart when their mother dies. A sociopath cannot feel sadness for most people because the most they will ever be is little blemishes on the earth.
Yes, guys do feel bad sometimes. Mature guys do have a conscience and care about others' feelings. Guys' minds work differently than girls' minds, so sometimes they have no …idea of the pain they cause.
Human nature! Something to do with conscience, going against things that you were taught at a young age. (my guess)
they don't have much. that's why their like that. take that away. they regret letting that go and feel sad. last but not least guilt for not holding what was close to them clo…ser. in their eyes the world is the cause and your just trying to protect it.
Shame, remorse, or repentance would all cover aspects of thesefeelings.