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I would suggest going to see a counselor or therapist. It can really help to work through things.

Abusive relationships are traumatic. Many people suffer from post-traumatic effects, such as stress and flashbacks.

After the ending of my emotionally abusive (amongst other abuses) I found myself depressed, feelig guilty (like "what if" I would have done such and such as he wanted), ashamed of what I allowed to continue and happen and then finally angry for the abuse that occured in my life. My greastet dependancy (and I am not lying) is constant going to my Lord Jesus for strength. Not only that, but I also finally broke the "silence" (cuz silence is of the essense to the abuser) and told my church family, my immediate family, my friends and co-workers what I lived through. Each and every one of them (although some have been tougher on me than others) have been there for me and "knew" I was being abused. I have had to seek some counseling for the flashbacks and horrible verbage said to me for 2 years...but ultimately God has been my greatest support. Prayerfully seek Him and don't be ashamed of what happened to you. Your are not to blame for their behavior and frame of mind, so don't continue to believe that lie. Go to your friends...you'll be amazed at how supportive your friends will be even when the abuser tried to eliminate them from your life. You can do it!!!!!!!!!

First of all, you need to constantly remind yourself that the abuse WAS NEVER YOUR FAULT. You need to remind yourself that you are a special beautiful person who deserves to be loved, respected and cared for. I know that breaking up from an abusive relationship is very hard but you can get through it one day at a time. Be with your friends and family, surround yourself with loving ,supportive people. Try new interests and pursuits, pursue an old hobby. Get out, meet new people and have fun! You deserve to be happy. And lastly, always pray for strength and guidance to help you get through this difficult situation. Take each day at a time and soon you'll see you're better.

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